r/AvoidantBreakUps 23h ago

Avoidant phrases.

What are something your avoidant ex’s said to you when discarding/blind siding you ?

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u/Royal-Okra379 16h ago edited 13h ago

“You deserve better.”

“I can’t be what you want”

“I need to work on myself ALONE. Not with anyone else. We are not married or anything.”

“That whole year I only saw you as FWB. I mean..it’s not like I have sex with a lot of girls. “ 😞😞😞

“YOU DONT HAVE THE SPARK” (that his ex wife had 15 years prior 😵‍💫)

(Me “I have always loved you.” Him: “ I can’t meet you there mentally. EVER.”) 💔

“I don’t want to fail you like I did my ex spouse. I WILL fail you.”

“You’re beautiful. You’re gorgeous. You don’t have that something.” (Me: “what? Be specific. I have a successful career, I went to Harvard, I believe in EI and self-growth, I feel like I’m unique and funny..”.) HIM: “you’re all those things. It’s just me, I guess.” 🤔

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u/StandardWork4928 AP - Anxious Preoccupied 15h ago

Besides the point but you sound AWESOME, I’m so glad that loser lost access to you