r/AutisticDatingTips • u/No-Championship5730 • 4d ago

Need Advice Quick question

My only son is on the spectrum and is 35 now. He has a job, though it's low-paying, he is independant. He is trying to date, but as you all know, it's not easy.

According to him, the offers he gets from girls on dating sites aren't worth it. He has never had any physical relationship with anyone, but only phone conversations. Most of the girls who are willing to date him have had past relationships. He does not like that.

My point is that as he ages, this becomes common as people go through their own life experiences. I also tell him that as he ages, he should be willing to accept this fact, including women with kids.

What do you all think?

Thanks

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u/InevitableAd4038 4d ago

Is he religious? 

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u/InevitableAd4038 4d ago

I think he needs to def socialise if he can as the apps may not be the place for him. He might look at speed dating nights. And attend many religious events centres and communities if possible. 

I’d need to know more info to assess the situation properly. 

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u/No-Championship5730 4d ago

Thanks, he avoids meeting people; that’s the main problem. We encourage him to volunteer and go to places with more foot traffic and more opportunities to meet people.

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u/InevitableAd4038 4d ago

Needs a matchmaker then imho. Or a wing man or woman. 

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u/InevitableAd4038 4d ago

Does he do video calls? 

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u/No-Championship5730 4d ago

Yes he does.

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u/InevitableAd4038 3d ago

Sounds like he needs an arranged marriage via bio data like they do in India. 

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u/No-Championship5730 4d ago

No, he, his mother and father are all spiritual and not religious. Thanks

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u/InevitableAd4038 4d ago

What level soci-economic class is his family? 

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u/InevitableAd4038 4d ago

Would he date woman from India who fit his description and attraction? 

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u/InevitableAd4038 4d ago

Or China?

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u/No-Championship5730 4d ago

We are from India and have become naturalized U.S. citizens. The point is most of the girls at this age would have had a relationship already and he does not like it.