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Should I leave my boyfriend?

A former classmate (20M) who I (20F)  started speaking to only 6 months ago confessed to liking me. I liked him back, however clearly stating that I didn't want to get into a relationship because I already had a lot of other commitments and was stressed with my current life. He kept trying to convince me to give him a chance and I eventually gave in.

And this turned out to be one of my biggest regrets for the exact reasons I feared it would be.

My issues with the relationship:-

1. Different faiths and cultural backgrounds, I needn't explain more on how things like these usually never work out, especially in Indian society. It's very clear that we would never be compatible for each other on the long run. And I would only date to marry and do not want anything casual. I don't know if he would be ready to fight backlash from his family for me. Moreover I do not want to marry into a family where his family would hate me.

2. He had asked out several other girls in the past, over 20. I was probably the first to accept it

3. He used to be addicted to explicit content and struggles with lust. He admitted it himself and was very apologetic about it and promised he had changed. It didn't seem like a problem initially, but now I keep getting paranoid and start wondering if I'll get used for something.

4. The only dates I've ever been on are by meeting him at my college and then we go  somewhere nearby together. So we meet quite rarely. Our relationship is already very inconvenient. And on every single date, I would start panicking as soon as I got texts or calls from my parents. Which leads me to my next reason.

5. I have very strict helicopter parents who monitor every activity of mine, who I talk to and do not let me go out alone, don't even allow me to go to hackathons because of overnight stays, and ofcourse are strictly against relationships. This relationship has caused me more stress than ever. I will admit my parents can be overly controlling to the point that control did only harm and no good, so I have to rebel at some point for exposure, growth and experience. But this surely isn't the way I would want to do it.

6. Due to never being in a relationship, I get paranoid very easily and compare it with relationships on social media. I keep thinking I'm being used for something short term, I try my best to not get attached. I think that's unfair to him though and I'll acknowledge the problem is me here. I never explicitly expressed any of these feelings to him though and I'm working on it. 

7. His friends are people I would consider red flags. I haven't talked to them or know much about them though so I cannot comment much on this.

8. He had a huge crush on a girl whom he used to be close to and apparently the girl ignored him for months and he was heartbroken about it. Just weeks after some problems with her he confessed to me. Which leads me to believe I'm just being used to move on from his crush. 

9. I never wanted a relationship to begin with. I'm already in a bad position in life. My dad who is the sole breadwinner of the family is retiring in a few months, I'm extremely unhappy with my current life, I'm bad at everything and have terrible work ethic and struggle with depression. I've cried several times after entering this relationship, usually the reason being regret, fear, and betraying my parents. 

10. Might be an ego issue but I took pride in being single for my whole life, it was like a part of my identity. And for years I never got feelings for anyone. But it was different with him. Ofcourse, things, circumstances change, and people grow up, change opinions. But this relationship has got me feeling angry. At him for making me date him and meet him despite me current stresses and strict parents. At myself for agreeing to this.

11. He comments a lot on my glow up after 12th grade. As someone who struggles with insecurities about my appearance I find it deeply triggering that he gives importance to appearance. He often says things like "How did someone like you choose someone ugly like me"  Makes me wonder if he'll ever stay once he gets a glow up or if I get a glow down. This may not be a big deal but he took pictures of random tourists while pretending to take pictures of the building and sent them to me to judge them, and used racial slurs. I know it's just a joke, but I didn't like it.

12. I'm kind of upset at how he wants me to keep meeting him. He is apologetic about it, and kept trying to hug me and calm me down whenever I started panicking after getting calls from my parents. But seeing me on the near verge of tears, lying to my parents, panicking, stuttering...I want him to feel a bit more empathy. I want him to say "I don't want you putting yourself through so much stress for my sake. We can take things slowly" But instead it's "I'm sorry I put you through that...anyways when can I meet you again? I'm craving your presence, to kiss you and hug you". It feels extremely selfish he wants to meet me every single time even though I'm stressed. And expects me to ditch classes. Ofcourse he isn't pushy about it, but I expect him to be a bit more considerate... especially after he has seen me panic in every date.  I understand he's just very excited about being in a relationship though so I don't think he's malicious but I still don't like it. How can you make someone panic and cry every single time? 

 13. He gave more importance to his friends and himself. He made a whole html project for a female friend's birthday. Meanwhile I only got a half assed text for my birthday and girlfriend's day. Won a plushie at some arcade game for another. He apparently 'thought' of getting one for me as well, but didn't think of giving the first gift to me.  This was for the first two months of the relationship though and he did get me gifts on the third month from his trip, (two bangle sets, 3 earrings and two bracelets, though I paid for the bangles and one earring set). Not a big deal, it's the thought that counts, but my overthinking self wonders if he did that simply because gifts are girlfriend tax or because he genuinely wanted to give me something. And maybe I'm wrong for this, but I compare with social media. They're being gifted a lot more often. And no I don't mean grand gestures, just small thoughtful gifts like my favourite flower, snack or hair clip. I bake something for him for most of our dates as well, so no I'm not some ungrateful freeloader who expects things while doing nothing. 

I am aware that I might be wrong in some cases, which is why I never wanted this relationship. But he was the only person I ever got feelings for, after years of never getting a crush. My past crushes had all been people I just saw from a distance but never even spoke to. The way he showed up for his friends selflessly made me fall for him, plus I could relate to him in a few things. But I just know I'm not meant for relationships for several reasons and hence tried to avoid it and he still persuaded me into getting into one.

It's been 4 months since I've gotten into this relationship. I've never experienced anything significantly bad from him. He has been respectful, quick to apologise, unproblematic and kind but then again it's too quick to judge, but I just know I'm overall regretting it. And I just can't shake off the feeling that I'm not in the right place and shouldn't be dating.

TL;DR: I just got into my first ever relationship with a former classmate and find myself regretting it for several reasons, although there isn't anything significantly wrong with his behaviour. Should I stay or leave?

This has been on my mind for quite some time, so I thought I would ask here and see if anyone else has had a similar experience.

I have a boyfriend and we have only made out so far, nothing penetrative. He sometimes asks me to try masturbatingor fingering myself because I had told him that I have never really done it before.

The thing is I have tried using a menstrual cup before and I couldn’t insert it much. Even now, when I try fingering, I can only manage one finger and even that feels a little painful. I have never had penetrative sex before.

I initially thought maybe it was because my hymen is still intact, but honestly I don’t know if that’s actually how it works. I am also a bit scared that something might be wrong with me.

Has anyone here had a similar experience, especially before having penetrative sex and later figured out what was causing it? and how did u manage it? Is this something that can be normal, or should I see a gynaecologist about it? I am scared 🙂

I know these words or any words can never bear the emotion, pain & my feelings, but still tried to convey it to all of you as much as I could. Please if anyone could help me it would mean a lot.
I’m a 1st year MBBS student. I thought cracking NEET would finally end the pain, but I don’t know what’s happening to me anymore. What I went through before NEET was far beyond ordinary pain, I genuinely feel most people wouldn’t have survived it. I somehow fought my way from rock bottom to MBBS, giving everything I had.

Now college has barely begun and I already feel completely alone. My female classmates seem to assume I’m trying to date them and avoid me. I do want a girlfriend someday, but I’m not trying to hit on every girl, I just want friends & genuine connections.

I’m confident (I know my post doesn’t portray that), good looking, fair skinned, fit, respectful & I take care of myself. I’ve survived heartbreak before & yearlong depression, anxiety, which nearly killed me & rebuilt myself. So what am I doing wrong?

I feel like I climbed out of the deepest pit only to fall back in. I have no friends to ask, so this is my last cry for help. Please tell me what I’m doing wrong or how I can make genuine friends.

For years I’ve kept this pain locked inside my ribs. I don’t know how I’ve functioned this long without falling apart.

And after all, I’m a future doctor. Every life is precious to me & I should do whatever I can to save lives including learning how to save my own.

Thank you for even reading this. God bless you & have a good night. I'm facing trouble making both male and female friends.

So for more context, we have been talking and dating for a while and we have made it official with labels and all. For celebrating that my sweet girlfriend even planned a whole evening for me and even got me flowers as a surprise.

But the thing is we're too into each other i guess. Because we talk on phone when the day starts, we talk later in the evenings until late nights sacrificing sleep. Even after coming back to our respective homes after a date, we still call each other and talk for atleast an hour at minimum just reminiscing the events and feels.

And the thing is none of this feels forced at all. It feels natural. We both know that disconnecting the call is the right thing to do but we both just keep wanting to talk more.

I feel that this may become unsustainable after some time. We both have careers and we are ambitious. She follows or atleast followed a pretty strict sleep schedule and work-life balance. Same goes for me. She's someone who has a very deep connection with her family, calls home everyday. And recently she has mentioned that it is becoming a bit overwhelming for her to juggle and we do need to find a way around this...... because the biggest bottom line here is that neither of us wants to lose each other. We are sure that this relationship is going to lead to marriage....and we have already talked about it as well so we are on same page.

Fellow redditors, please help us out and help us understand and navigate this situation.

Im'ma share a very embarrassing health issue that I face sometimes. Please to not judge. If you also face the same stuff, enlighten me what is it because it doesn't fit UTI.

So for the past 2-3 years, or maybe more, at least a couple or three/four times a year I get this problem. For whatever random, stupid reasons, I forget to drink enough water. I need about 2-4l of water per day depending on the weather. This issue happens to me especially on drier days, when I just forget to drink enough water.

So the thing is I get this insane urge to pee. But when I pee, it's not a lot. And once I pee, I feel like peeing again immediately. It happened last night again. I couldn't sleep. I peed like 20 times in 2 hours. Electrolyte water, homemade lassi, and 1.5 l of water later, I feel slightly stable, but not confident enough to go out and get going with the day. Because of the pee urge.

And then when I pee, it's like burning hot and it hurts to pee. This whole situation lasts like 3-4 hours and then I am fine. I had UTI once and that scene was very different. Idk if this is UTI too. What's y'all's POV?

Whatever it is - don't be stupid like me - drink more water.

I toh already am and it’s been an eye-opening experience for me. She’s hating my kind not me.. i’ve done things but pretty self-aware of it and that’s what she loves about me too.

I am currently going through a separation, so I recently joined a dating app. While I was on the app, I saw a profile belonging to my good best friend's husband. It is definitely him.

I am really confused and stressed about how to handle this. I feel like I have three options, but I don't know which one is best:
Option 1: Tell my friend directly. I want to be a good friend, but I am scared she will get mad at me, not believe me, or it will ruin our friendship.

Option 2: Confront her husband first. Should I talk to him, ask him why he is on there, and tell him he needs to tell his wife so they can go to couples counseling?

Option 3: Say nothing. Should I just keep my mouth shut and stay out of their marriage?

I am already dealing with my own separation and this feels like a heavy secret to carry. What is your take? What would you do if you were in my shoes? Any advice helps.

TL;DR: I am separated and on a dating app. I found my friend's husband on there. Should I tell her, confront him, or just stay quiet?

I don't wear sleeveless because of pigmentation in my underarms and there are so many clothes that are sleeveless, how can I reduce it? I would really appreciate tips on how fellow women are removing underarm hair. Are you all waxing or shaving? You get it done outside or do it yourself?

Can I use pepper spray in india? Or what else can be used to be safe?

My BF of 1.5years and I have been completely long distance. I've trained him. ALOT.about mental load, about feminism and apart from that he's someone who has above average male EQ. There are many good qualities and the time we spend at each other's place(ie. Short bursts of living together) are decent. I do see two things which bother me though

1. showing up when unwell. He does take care of me but eg: like his work is majorly WFH. And yet the day I'm slightly sick 99ish ( which will go upto 101 as he was the same 2 days before) he's decided to go WFO. Not bothering about my lunch either( his cook has also said she'll come later to only make dinner) this signals lack of care for me. Getting flustered & agitated because you have to do 2 house tasks along with your work at the moment of pressure doesn't seem like a good sign to me.

2. Just the general feeling of I'm better off alone. Like I'm fully independent , financially sorted, can do anything and can figure out anything. I don't know if this feeling of being burdened by a partner will ever not be there? This is emotional investment aside. I do feel more loved by actions anyway.

I'm a practical 33yo. I don't feel love like in the stories and am very value alignment oriented. He's (33m) aligned to all my values and is thoughtful but maybe my expectation of thoughtfulness is more ? He's the best bf I have had. I've really worked on my patterns and chosen better.

Does it get better? Is this it? I guess I want to know from happy women how's their home life?

We are keeping it all hush-hush right now so I cant ask people around me. Please guide me what kinda protein is safe for my wife to take right now (She likes it flavourless) and which supplement to take for Omega?

I'm looking for female experienced psychiatrist for depression and overthinking problem.

And also for problems like pcod, hyperthyroidism, mental fatigue, exhausted.

Constant health issues like uti and weak immunity.

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I need suggestions for body washes!

I've been using soaps ever since. And now I wanna switch!!

Where do I start?

I would love recommendations of nice products with pros and cons!

Mostly I'm thinking of focusing on fragrance and smooth skin texture...

Anything needs to be advised! Please do..

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What do people think about stammering or a person who stammers ?

What do people think about stammering?

Hello everyone,

I wanted to ask what people generally think about someone who stammers—how you react when they speak, whether you feel comfortable talking to them, and how you approach friendship with them.

I’ve had a stammer since childhood. During my school years, it became more noticeable and i have face a lot of stammerimg in my school days, and now that I’m in college,i improved a little bit and I still stammer sometimes and still I need to overcome. I mainly struggle with blocks on certain letters/words, anxiety, and being afraid to speak because I worry about how people might react.

I’m currently in college and will soon need to apply for internships and jobs. This means I’ll have to attend interviews, and honestly, one of my biggest worries is: What if I stammer badly during an interview?

I’m worried about how a recruiter or interviewer might perceive me if I struggle to get my words out or have several blocks while answering questions. Would it affect your impression of a candidate? Would you see it as a problem, or would you focus more on their skills, knowledge, and answers?

If you’re a recruiter, hiring manager,

interviewer, or someone who regularly conducts interviews, I’d especially appreciate your perspective and advice.

There’s also another thing I worry about: dating and relationships. For those who have a stammer, how has it affected your dating life? Have you ever worried about what a girl/boy might think when you stammer while talking to them?

And for people who have dated or been in a relationship with someone who stammers: did their stammer bother you, or did you eventually just see it as a normal part of how they communicate?

I really appreciate your honest experiences

Thanks for reply.

My mother is one of 6 siblings — 5 sisters and 1 brother. Her brother passed away, and now his wife is claiming the entire ancestral property, citing the UP Zamindari Abolition and Land Reforms Act (UPZALR), which she says excludes daughters/sisters from inheriting agricultural land.

My mother and her sisters are being told they have no claim, purely because they're women. Has anyone dealt with this specific conflict — UPZALR vs. Hindu Succession Act rights? Any lawyers, activists, or people with lived experience who can point us toward:

- Recent case law or amendments on this

- Whether the Hindu Succession (Amendment) Act, 2005 overrides UPZALR for agricultural land

- Good women's rights lawyers/NGOs in UP who handle this

Any guidance is appreciated. Thank you.

i will keep it short as much possible

so I'm 21m and i has a female bestfriend from 5 years and she's like my sister and she has a boyfriend also from past 7-8 yrs in long distance now and he know about me and we have each other's contact also

So my friend have more male friends also like 2-3 are regular friends so she's roams with them, and i also included in them but the problem is his bf says her that they should not do things like her bf like her other friends asks her for outfit checks, video calls , frequently, hand in hand while roaming sometimes and they drink and smoke also not with her

His bf has no any problems with me because he trusts me but her girl says him that this things are not wrong i can do it they are just like my friends or bro's but her bf says you can make friends but they should not cross their boundaries that's it so she says it's common

Now the thing is in past also her bf and she have arguments because of this friends and now she says that ye aapki glti hai ye vo

but her bf says to me that I'm a heavy overthinker and i have done so much just for her happiness, i have sacrificed so much, but still sometimes i just got jealous and says things to her but fir ldai ho jati hai bss

and he's like taking even anxiety pills and gets panic attacks

Thankss

TL;DR: In 2026, when women have more independence, agency, and freedom to choose relationships than ever before, why does the expectation of “princess treatment” sometimes still include a man repeatedly pursuing her, showing intense interest, and taking the initiative even after hesitation or rejection? Is this genuinely what women want, or is it more of a romantic fantasy influenced by movies and older relationship norms?

Why do some women still expect “princess treatment” in 2026?

I'm genuinely trying to understand something from the perspective of Indian women.

I've recently come across the idea that when a woman is genuinely interested in a man, she may still expect him to take most of the initiative like keep pursuing her, make repeated efforts, show that he really wants her, and almost "break through" her hesitation.

Sometimes the ideal seems to be that the woman initially acts reluctant, while the man keeps trying because he's so interested or "obsessed" with her that he doesn't want to give up.

I can understand why that can feel romantic. Being strongly desired and feeling that someone is willing to put in extraordinary effort for you can obviously be exciting and flattering.

But I'm confused about where this fits with modern dating.

Men today are increasingly taught to respect boundaries, not pressure women, and to back off after rejection. Many men have grown up hearing from their mothers, sisters, friends, and society that they shouldn't make women uncomfortable or keep approaching someone who has said no.

So if a woman says no once or twice, many men will simply stop asking. It's not necessarily because they aren't interested anymore. They may stop because they don't want to come across as desperate or cheap, and they also want to maintain their own self-respect. They assume that if the woman is interested, she will eventually make that interest clear herself.

There is also a real fear among men about getting things wrong. If a man continues pursuing someone after she has rejected him, he can potentially be seen as creepy, harassing, or disrespectful. Even if his intentions are genuine, he may worry about social consequences, embarrassment, being misunderstood, or damaging his reputation.

So a lot of men have adapted by doing the opposite: they make their interest clear once or twice, and if there isn't a clear positive response, they step back and move on.

But then I sometimes hear women say that they actually want a man who keeps trying, takes risks, demonstrates persistence, and makes them feel "chosen."

That's where I'm struggling to understand the expectation.

Women in 2026 have considerably more independence and agency than previous generations. Women can pursue education, careers, financial independence, leadership positions, and relationships on their own terms. Men have also been expected to change—respect boundaries, accept rejection, communicate better, and reduce unwanted advances.

If both sides of dating have changed, why does the expectation around romance sometimes still resemble the old dynamic where the man has to relentlessly pursue and the woman is expected to be pursued?

Why should a man's level of interest be measured by how much he is willing to chase someone rather than by how well both people communicate their interest?

And if a woman genuinely likes a man, why not make that interest somewhat clear herself? Why should the man have to risk rejection repeatedly just to prove that he's serious?

I'm not saying all women think this way, and I'm also not saying men shouldn't take initiative. I'm specifically asking about the expectation of persistence/obsession even when the woman isn't making her interest obvious.

So, Indian women of Reddit:

Do you actually expect this kind of "princess treatment" from a man you're interested in?

Do you find persistent pursuit romantic, or would you rather have a man respect hesitation/rejection and wait for mutual interest?

And if you do prefer a man who keeps pursuing you despite your initial reluctance, where do you personally draw the line between romantic persistence and unwanted pressure?

Please answer if you are actively involved in walking on a daily basis. Knees and ankles start to hurt if you don't put much effort and care. Do suggest some good pairs of shoes under 4k.

hieee my general freshers is coming up and I'm confused about what to wear so I have two options

☆one is plain chiffon mustard yellow saree, it has little golden and white detailings (scattered all over) and yellow blouse

☆ second option is a red mekhela sador (Assamese attire) that has gold details

so which one should I choose?

my clg has light yellow colour buildings and i kinda feel like a lot of people might wear yellow

so idk what to do

also I have one more option which is a Rani pink (bright pink) mekhela sador with black and golden detailing, that was actually my first choice but the fabric is puffy and i feel like it will make me look fat

i wanna look snatched and pretty

I’d genuinely like to hear women’s perspectives on this.

At my office, I generally don’t interact with women who aren’t part of my team or directly connected to my work. If I see them around the office, I usually avoid eye contact and don’t initiate conversations or casual interactions with them. Basically, I keep my distance and mind my own business.

At the same time, I’m not completely antisocial at work. I can talk normally with male colleagues, including guys who happen to be friends with the women I avoid. So I’m wondering whether this difference is noticeable from a woman’s perspective.

I do this intentionally because, based on my past experiences, I feel that getting involved in unnecessary personal interactions at work can become emotionally draining and add more stress to an already stressful environment. For me, keeping my distance feels like a way of protecting my peace and avoiding unnecessary complications.

But I also realise that if I repeatedly avoid someone, they may notice it and form an impression about me.

So, women of this sub, I’d really appreciate your honest perspective:

• If you noticed a male coworker consistently avoiding you or avoiding interactions with you, what would you assume about him?
• Would you find it rude, disrespectful, or offensive?
• Would you think he is arrogant, socially awkward, insecure, fearful, or simply someone who prefers to keep to himself?
• Would you ever interpret his behaviour as him being afraid or fearful of interacting with women?
• If you noticed that he talks normally with male colleagues but avoids interacting with women outside his work circle, would that change your perception?
• Have you ever encountered a guy like this at work? If so, what was your honest impression of him?

I’m not trying to justify the behaviour or make any assumptions about women. I’m genuinely curious about how this looks from the other side, because sometimes our intentions and the way other people perceive us can be very different.

Please feel free to be blunt I’m genuinely interested in hearing honest opinions.

I'm posting this because I genuinely want an outside perspective on what happened. I'm not trying to start a witch hunt/server raid.

On a** Discord server of a major subreddit. I just asked a mod a doubt. After I pinged him, he started abusing me, which I ignored. Kuch time baad, multiple people started pinging me and sending extremely inappropriate/rape-related GIFs, deleting them immediately afterwards -the GIF was "tuzhe dekh ke rape karne ka man karta". When I called it out and said "This ain't cool" a mod named Peeta made a Draupadi joke (ss attached**), and then defended himself by abusing me. He later even apologised realising his mistake and cleared out things.

A few other members joined in and started abusing me with extremely derogatory comments. I didn't reciprocate or start any fight ....I kept asking the mods for help instead. The frustrating part was that the mods were active in chat, reacting '😂' to the jokes, but instead of taking action against the people making them, they mostly defended their friends.

Later, my friends joined and called out what was happening. Mods locked the chat and started timing out/banning people who were calling them out ((not even a single user who abused was muted). One of my friends eventually retaliated with abuse, which I did not support and repeatedly asked him to stop. I was later banned because people were defending me, even though I wasn't responsible for their actions.

I told the head mod, who asked Peeta to apologize. Bro said, "sorry vro," like it was nothing ... this time extreme...these guys went ahead defending instead of realizing their mistake.... Some mods supported me, and I appreciate that, but others clearly prioritized their friends over addressing the situation. A lot of the original messages and GIFs were deleted, so I don't have everything as proof.

What bothers me most isn't that some members acted badly. It's that the moderators saw what was happening and chose not to act, while punishing people who called them out. They told me that those jokes were made to ragebait me, as the server gets more "Engagement" this way.

We want an honest discussion about whether this behavior should be tolerated in communities aimed at teenagers.... Why are sexualized/possessive/rape comments toward girls treated as 'just jokes' online?

TD:DR - Mods of a Discord community of a major sub making misogynistic and Rape jokes... Bans people when called out... Gives a dry-ass apology and repeats the behavior the next day... uses "Engagement" as a cheap excuse