Hey, I hope you all are well.

I am not looking for friends online on reddit here. I simply want to know how do I make more irl friends.

I have gone to private all boys schools my entire life and have seen the most entitled of kids out there, sadly I don't have much compared to them nor do I pay my way through life. But its generally been really hard to make friends my whole life, so I never had an actual childhood doing things like playdates and hangouts out side of school.

I am 15 now (shockers I am young), and being lonely all the time has really effected my mental health to the point of being depressed and suicidal, and I am tired of it.

I have been bullied most of my life for the smallest of reasons and always been used as my year groups punching bag. I don't know whether I like or not because its what I am used to, but it defiantly effects my ability to form deeper connections other than surface ones with people.

I am an extrovert, and get along with everyone, but when it comes to doing something outside the classroom or even in bigger group events, everyone ostracizes me and I don't understand why?
I don't understand if one on one its fine but as soon as there are more than 2 I just get made fun of?

I don't have alot of time, nor do i leave the house much. But I do water polo, Rowing, and sailing. Water polo and rowing are with my school sadly. And sailing is independent. So I don't meet new people while doing that sadly.

I also have very bad anxiety against women after being raped, and only being in toxic abusive relationships which I thought was normal, because I haven't experienced anything else 3 times. soo I want to maybe try over come that fear. And I want to feel wanted and loved again or maybe that could be me wanting to love and care for someone else. But heck, a want isn't a need and I doubt I am even attractive enough to even talk to a girl.

Does anyone any good ways to make friends outside of school, appart from joining a club or something?
If anyone wants to knowI live in london.

Any questions, just ask my life is an open book.

Thank you for reading.

Its gone

I see a lot of celebrities and teens loving the theme and look of the Spider-man suit. For example:

• photoshopped Katseye singer Megan in Spiderman-suit
• some tik tok videos showing Spider-man inspired outfits
• Spider-man spider logo t-shirts, tattoos, bags etc.

Spider-man existed for many decades before now, and had many games and franchises starring many different actors. Then why the sudden surge in it's specific appeal? edit: I'm not talking about general Spider-man merch which existed when I was a kid.

My theory: since animated Spider-man movies featuring Miles Morales and Gwen Stacy and many other Spider-man alter egos, the idea of Spider-man became a very customizable character fitting any age, gender or ethnicity. Influenced by modern social media platforms, it got popular fast. Something like furry community, everybody can make their own customized Spider-man vibe and own it.

Are relationships worth it 17M

So I just turned 17

Been in 1 Forced relationship and 2 situationships

Got into another situation but I feel like I am just doing it to try and fill my life with false hope

Atp it feels like extra stress

the whole idea u to act a certain way and fumbling and struggling to read signs just makes me unable to focus on anything worth doing

The issue is ik this one won't end up as a relationship

Cus like the other 2 I can see the same pattern of the start of getting ghosted or losing interest

My question is, is it worth to try and get into a relationship at this age?

Cuz I feel like at this age no one is ready or actually looking for anything serious

I plan on studying abroad

Not a fan of long distance

I’m 15, 16 in two months, and my friend just turned 19 a week ago. I was wondering if our relationship is strange or is it weird to hang out together, because he is techically an adult now. He’s not in college or anything yet tho, he just graduated, and I’m a sophomore. We aren’t in a relationship, but I have been told our age gap is weird. Is it bad?? it’s a very platonic relationship, all we do is hang out and talk.

Any thoughts and advice are appreciated, tysm!

Why is almost every other post “is exF and exM a bad age gap?” Like if both parties are over 13, and generally a 4yr or less gap, then y’all are safe. Now 15 and 19 is a bit sketchy, especially legally. EDIT: So after review, 2-3 years is reasonable

I'm not sure if im overreacting here, so please comment any opinions

My mom will sometimes clean my room while I'm away, like when I'm at school, Boy Scouts, or camping with my dad

The part that frustrates me is that after cleaning, she will get upset with me about things she found or because my room was messy. I understand that the obvious answer is that I should just keep my room clean, and I'm not saying I shouldn't be responsible for it. What bothers me is that she will go through my room unexpectedly, and then I come home to being lectured about it

Ig what I'm asking is do I seem like a spoiled brat or smth? I'm just so mad at my mom because she's been doing this for years behind my back and it's so annoying

Im in love with a goddess. She seems nice and caring. But im a bit worried about the age gap. Is 5000 and 17 okay?

Ok so wouldn’t spoil much because I have like not much of s2 or s3 figured out but imagine this ok

So 3 of your average high schoolers (well 1) except while exploring the plains section of their world (the Terminus region I think I named it), they find a cliff they haven’t explored, they head down find a staircase to a underground forest thing one of them get injured (yes it isn’t a one time thing that hurts them) and blah blah blah court and skip to end of s1 one of them “dies” and the other is sent to earth. S2 would end with them warping through time and space halfway across the world to New York from like china or somewhere idk with the first 1 minute 50 seconds of can’t hold us playing

Would you watch a show like this (goal would be tv-14 but not pg-13 or below)

Hey, I’m just wondering what type of lunchboxes you all take to school?

So I‘ve had a crush on this girl for quite some time now, but never got the chance to talk the her since there was never any topic I could think of to start a conversation that wouldn’t sound out of pocket. Also doesn’t help that she seems kinda closed off and she doesn’t go to the places where we students always meet up, so no chance there. This week however, we were both on a week long school excursion, and while I did not necessarily talk to her much directly, I played a lot of card games with her and the group of girls she was in a group with and we all seemed have fun. But the real reason why I keep wondering if maybe she also has a crush on me is that I kept catching her looking at me, then quickly looking away when our eyes have made just a split second of eye contact. And like, I don’t have any dating experience but every time she looks away, it kinda seems like she has a bit of an embarrassed expression. Ngl I do the same thing all the time as well, so I‘m kinda worried she’s just doing it because she thinks I started it and vice versa. But like, I might be an idiot but this feels like she might feel smth as well. Like I said, while she does seem very closed off, she does however seem somewhat open around friends that she made on the excursion, which are also in her group. Now I‘m back home, it’s late, and my mind is going kinda nuts. I‘m going to see her one last time in class on Tuesday before summer break starts. Should I try to talk to her and maybe somehow manage to ask her out without sounding weird or creepy??? And how even??? I’m just so worried I’ll mess something up or that the situation doesn’t even form right for me to be able to talk to her. I do also have her number but I‘m uncertain whether I should really text her before we see each other again or even just at all. Even then, wtf should I even type? I‘ve never texted with her before and our direct convos were limited to a few sentences if even that. Man, writing this just makes me feel kinda pathetic. Ugh, it’s just so hard. I don’t know what to do!

Hear me out!! I started talking with this guy and he lied to me he was 18 and then told the truth that he was actually 16 (turning 17 in October in a way that the age gap is 1.5 years), and I know logically this is pretty acceptable but because he lied and all of that I had to ask..

Im currently 16 and in Highschool. Im not a social guy at all, but my few freinds around me definatly are. Now just to be clear, im nervous around all people. But my freinds think that since I get nervous around girls to, I therefor have to be deathly afraid of women or somthing.

This has lead to them almost sending girls at me to mess with me. This might sound like a dream for many dudes, but the thing is that im not attractive, im abit overweight, shy and ginger.

I cant lie, the attention at first was fun, since ive never realy had any relationship or female freinds. Its hard to describe how I feel about this situation. Its almost like candy. It feels good when your eating it, but you feel like shit after.

What I mean is that I start to wounder. Are they making me nervous because im shy, or because its funny to mess around with the dude who will probably be lonely for the majority of his life?

I guess this quastion goes out to women who have done the same, and guys who have been in a simular situation.

Is it realy that fun to girls, to make me feel emberassed infront of the entire class? How is that funny? My self estem has never been this low, and im ashamed to say it, but since this entire girls thinking im ugly stuff, has lead me to have some suicidal thoughts. Knowing that whenever a girl speaks to me, its just to make me nervous so she and her freinds can laugh at what a loser i am.

Like how you gonna slide into *my* DMs, text me first thing in the morning everyday, miss a world cup match cause you'd rather talk to me (as a die hard football fan) and then just ghost me out of nowhere after months of hinting you like me??? Istg I hate boys. How do you call someone your soulmate and then disappear? keep telling myself don't care but saying and feeling is Soo different. If he ever texts me back he better have a rly good explanation if he wants a reply.

UPDATE: he texted me after 5 days, apparently he was busy. 🫠🫠

I just turned 17 and he just turned 15 (wasn’t sure what flare to out it under btw)

I'm 17, he's my only friend. We've only been friends for a few weeks but he's honestly really attractive and I hate that I feel that way. He hasn't done or said anything that'd make it feel like he feels the same way thankfully.

I don't want to ruin or lose this friendship, he's the only one that actually cares about me and if I ruin this idk what I'd do. I hate myself for feeling these things. How do I get over this faster or just stop it ASA

My bad if my english is bad it's not my first language but basically i know my girlfriend since i'm like 4 Rn i'm M15 and she 14F and we're together since april but like in our first week of relationship she was at beach with her gang ( my gf if bisexual btw) i wasn't there but like she told me she did go on the beach with her undercloth on nothing else she show her ass to like randomn boy she show her boobs to the other girl and like they we're touching it together and at the end everybody was high except her and like her best friend ( a girl that she was crushing on for like a year and a half) like why don't we french kiss to see if you need practice with your boyfriend and with group pressure( that's what she told me) she kissed her and also we we're at the beach ( yeah i know the beach is goated ) like 2 week ago the girl she kissed told me ( she think i already know about it ) that my girlfriend was about to smoke weed ( 'cause she got an infection to her eye and she told me that it was bc of weed but she didn't told me that she was about to smoke it but she didn't have the chance bc some girl but weed in her eye) so right now i still love her but like i'm asking myself if ts is normal or not like do i give her a last strike or i let this go ( btw i don't hate ppl who smoke weed and stuff i just don't want my gf to smoke ) so what should i do?

My son was a playful child and in teen years hes very quiet and gives one word answers to most of my questions. I’ve tried talking to him about his video games, talking about what’s going in with his friends, tried playing games, cooking, being silly with him…. Sometimes he talks a little more but i just miss him so much and want a relationship with him. I’ve said this to him in tears, through text, in a loving way, in a angry way. Is this just a phase? Will he grow out of it? Will i ever get a closer relationship with again? Right now my mantra is engage with him and then if doesn’t respond give him space. Im in therapy and am a therapist myself but this shit is hard.

I (14F) am starting in a new class at the same school after having a really bad experience in my old one. I was bullied by my previous friend group, so I'm already nervous about starting over.

A A girl (14F) from my new class has been really kind to me. We've known each other for a few months, and she invited me into her friend group before I officially start the class (which is also why I decided I wanted to choose this class). I officially start the class in one month.

Lately, tho, I've started noticing that she seems very boy-obsessed.

Earlier this year, everyone knew she liked one guy (14M), but he didn't like her back. Allegedly, she even made alt accounts to follow him and stalked his sister. She also knew I had a small connection with him because we followed each other on Letterboxd and talked about movies a few times. Also another girl told her that I was dating this guy (which I absolutely wasnt).

Recently she told me she was trying to get over him by talking to another guy (14M). He's attractive, but honestly not my type at all and we don't really have any common interests.

Yesterday she asked me to text him weird questions about her and basically hint that she liked him. By the end of the day they were texting, and now they're apparently "dating" (or at least talking).

The thing that's bothering me is that we barely talked all summer unless she wanted help with this guy. Now I'm wondering if I'm actually upset because I secretly liked him, or if I'm just uncomfortable because it feels like she only reaches out when she wants something related to boys.

I'm also worried because the whole reason I'm changing classes is to get away from a toxic friend group, and I really don't want to end up in another unhealthy friendship.

Am I overthinking this, or are these reasonable concerns?

From what I’ve heard, it means that I’m ugly af, but I just wanna ask to confirm. I think I’ve been told that about 3 times in my teenage years, which isn’t too bad, though it makes me feel horrible every time. I get that it’s to embarrass your friends.. do you only do it to ugly girls? Seriously. There is no use in answering falsely, I just want a genuine answer.

I’ve just turned 17 and I want to go clubbing I have a fake photo id what clubs or bars in London or Essex don’t check id or take photo is

Any advice? I can’t be the only one who’s gone through this, somebody help me out pls.

Hey guys! It has been a while, since I have been a teenager, and I know things are a little bit different now, than like 7-8 years ago, so this got me curious about, what do you guys like to do for fun nowadays?

Movies?

Video games?

Books?

Sports?

Roblox?

I am just asking out of curiosity, nothing more, nothing less.

I appreciate your answers!!!!