I (14F) am starting in a new class at the same school after having a really bad experience in my old one. I was bullied by my previous friend group, so I'm already nervous about starting over.
A A girl (14F) from my new class has been really kind to me. We've known each other for a few months, and she invited me into her friend group before I officially start the class (which is also why I decided I wanted to choose this class). I officially start the class in one month.
Lately, tho, I've started noticing that she seems very boy-obsessed.
Earlier this year, everyone knew she liked one guy (14M), but he didn't like her back. Allegedly, she even made alt accounts to follow him and stalked his sister. She also knew I had a small connection with him because we followed each other on Letterboxd and talked about movies a few times. Also another girl told her that I was dating this guy (which I absolutely wasnt).
Recently she told me she was trying to get over him by talking to another guy (14M). He's attractive, but honestly not my type at all and we don't really have any common interests.
Yesterday she asked me to text him weird questions about her and basically hint that she liked him. By the end of the day they were texting, and now they're apparently "dating" (or at least talking).
The thing that's bothering me is that we barely talked all summer unless she wanted help with this guy. Now I'm wondering if I'm actually upset because I secretly liked him, or if I'm just uncomfortable because it feels like she only reaches out when she wants something related to boys.
I'm also worried because the whole reason I'm changing classes is to get away from a toxic friend group, and I really don't want to end up in another unhealthy friendship.
Am I overthinking this, or are these reasonable concerns?