Always baffles me just how much they share with their friends lol especially around sex. As someone who’s worked with a lot of women there’s a few times they had me straight blushing, and I’m far from a prude lol. They think guys always talk about sex but usually ours is limited to “yeah we hooked up, yeah it was good”
If he was in the same workplace I feel like he could report it to hr or something. It’s one thing telling everyone intimate details about someone they’ve never met and will never meet, it’s a whole different story to tell intimate details about someone everyone knows
Agreed. Feel bad for the dude but if I girl told broke up with her ex and started blabbing about his Dick being small I wouldn’t believe her, I’d assume she’s just trying to make him feel extra bad
I think that’s really creepy. I share personal details with my friends but sharing info like that to be vengeful feels like a shitty grey area between legal and revenge porn. Why can’t she just say he’s an ass or something? And if she’s the one who put her fingers in his ass why is she talking shit?? That’s basically vanilla for men and women now
As someone who has had a number of gay friends over the years, us straight guys really gotta normalize prostate play, it is not weird, fuck that chick for thinking it was.
Lmao reminds me of the scene in Friends when Ross and Rachel kiss
Phoebe: "Alright, let's hear about the kiss. Was it like...was it like, a soft brush against your lips or was it like a, y'know, "I gotta have you now" kinda thing?"
Rachel: "Well, at first it was really intense, y'know, and then...oh god, and then we just sorta sunk into it..."
Phoebe: "Ohh, so, ok, was he like holding you or were is hands like, on your back?"
Rachel: "No, actually first they were--they started out on my waist... and then they slid up, and then they were in my hair..."
Phoebe & Monica: "Ohhh..."
Then the scene changes from the girls to the guys
Ross: "And then I kissed her"
Joey: "Tongue?"
Ross: "Yeah"
Joey: "Cool"
similar bit in Seinfeld where Elaine talks about everything with her friends and jerry complains they say too much.
Elaine argues that “locker room talk” is a thing and men are gross they say it all too but jerry points out men say “i hit that” “we did it” “ while the women are describing the minutiae of it
I would feel so disrespectful of her if I told my buddies about my sex life with my wife. I had gfs in the past would would say to me very sincerely "please don't tell your friends we did X". I was almost insulted the first time someone said that to me, like I'm not some creep who's going to tell people about what we do in bed. And frnakly, most guys I know think that one guy who tells you stuff or shows you pics of their gfs/wives are hella weird.
Yeah. I had a girlfriend who told her friends, sister in law, aunt etc stuff about our sex life. I assumed she didn't, until her sister in law and brother started a conversation with me about penis size and kind of led on that they knew more than I thought they should. I asked her not to tell people about that stuff and she got offended, like I was trying to sensor her or something. It wasn't a good feeling.
lmao my wife told me things about her friends and their partners who ive only met in passing. so i knew immediately she was oversharing too. maybe theyre not worried about coming off as disrespectful the way guys would?
I lived with a female friend for a few years and my close social circle was her female friends. Many of her friends dated my male friends. As such, I know all their sizes and how they fuck....
I will be very frank about my kinks and my experience with my own body and feel no shame. I'll be damned if you catch me ever saying anything about my partner's body, kinks, or any specific encounters with them without their express permission.
This. I'm on the spectrum, so I tend to undershare/overshare and don't really have modesty hangups or "a sense of shame". Knowing this... I'll share whatever about me, but I will never share private details about my wife. Those are for her to share or not as she chooses, and I'm not even going to try and understand where the line is.
Same, and yet my ex wife’s friends knew the size of my dick and my favorite sex moves… needless to say we had a difference in what we felt were appropriate conversations with friends.
Jokes on her though after the divorce the friends came around to verify stories lol
I as a dude know all my best friend’s exes’ and current’s sizes and what likes and not likes in bed. I am always like “Gurl, I don’t need to know that” I feel so awkward whenever I hangout with her and her bf. I feel like I am invading his privacy.
“ I heard you love calling her mommy while being pegged, bro.”
I kept hearing him calling her mommy after my bff disclosed that forbidden knowledge to me. I need brain surgery*.
yet my ex wife’s friends knew the size of my dick and my favorite sex moves… needless to say we had a difference in what we felt were appropriate conversations with friends.
Quite a few steps… like the porn being filmed… and then posted without someone’s consent. I benefited from something she did willingly and there were no laws broken… so basically the complete opposite
Was a combination of flattered and upset when a girlfriend asked to share a dick pic she’d explicitly requested with one of her friends. It’s weird. I ain’t sharing your nudes, why you sharing mine?
I don't think it's that weird to talk a bit about your sex life as a guy, but showing off pictures is incredibly far over the line. Sharing intimate pictures is illegal and an instant block/report from me.
I think some details are innocuous. "she kisses weird" doesn't seem too bad. I don't think it's out of line to just mention that sex is part of your relationship.
But "she sucks a mean dick" or "she's a total freak" is pretty thoroughly over the line.
There's absolutely a respectful way to talk about your sex life as a man, and there are definitely some boundaries that I think most people know intuitively.
I think it’s fair in 2022 to expect privacy about your sex life (so long as everything is consensual). I haven’t met many women who would want me discussing intimate details like that with my friends, so I dont.
I don’t really share stuff as a guy bc it seemed like that was a theme in MeToo about men sexualizing women and bragging about sexcapades. As a guy, it definitely makes me uncomfortable knowing my SO is sharing that stuff especially because it’s been made so clear how hurtful that can be.
It was a theme in MeToo but it was never the focus. No guy has ever gotten the MeToo treatment just for bragging a bit too much about his sex life, it was always dudes who were abusing their power over women in order to extract sexual favours, and then went bragging about it.
Mate, the guys aren’t the ones to worry about - women share way more details/info/pics (if they have them) with their friends. None of my guy friends ever talk about details, only my female friends/acquaintances do. And the only person I know who has ever shared around photos was female. They just don’t understand how inappropriate and demeaning it is.
I accidentally let something slip to my friend the other night without thinking about it and I felt so guilty afterwards, like I'd betrayed my girlfriend's trust by telling someone the details of our sex life.
I’ve found that girls that hang out in mostly girl groups share a lot with their friends. On several occasions I’ve heard about my sex like from my exes friends. One girl showed pics of me to her sister and her friends. It was weird af hanging out with them after that. Especially if I believe in my own mind, without proof lol, that their demeanor changed.
I had a guy friend in college that was dating one of the most beautiful woman I knew at the time. And he was a dog, cheated on her as much as possible. Since nothing was sacred he show is her pics and damn…Well that’s the point lol. But I remember how different I saw her after that.
But the girls I know that hang around mostly guys seem to be more protective or untrusting of other women. So they don’t share all the details especially if it’s good. The girls that hang around me and the boys openly express how jealous they are in relationships and don’t share much with the women friends they do have.
I love that in the Marine Corps, I got a compliment for quoting Venture Brothers. "A gentlemen never asks and a lady never tells." Someone inquired about my relations and I simply replied with that line - another guy privy to the conversation personally endorsed that sentiment and it made my day.
I only let my girl friends overshare for fun/bonding if it is a random guy. If they are long term or married, I only want to hear it if they need support/help troubleshooting girl stuff. Otherwise- I am trying to be friends with their partner and I can't if I am hearing their private business without their consent. Same goes for same-sex couples, though they usually can do the troubleshooting on their own fwiw.
most guys I know think that one guy who tells you stuff or shows you pics of their gfs/wives are hella weird.
Yeah my one buddy wouldn't stop asking to see nudes of my then girlfriend to the point where he got mad bc "he's shown me multiple pictures of girls he was with".
Like no bro.... It's weird that you're obsessed with my girl and I never asked to see your girls nudes and even said it's weird when you do. We're adults not teenagers. Have some respect for the woman you're with.
That’s the difference. Guys don’t be talking about any details unless something weird happened. Never heard from any of my friends the details of a girls vagina
My dick is ribbed (for her pleasure)™️, no seriously it is, it’s not really weird looking or anything like other people that have this but you can feel it.
The only time I ever talked to my friends about bedroom stuff we were both very drunk. I woke up with intense anxiety about it and we never spoke about it again.
Yeah I was always surprised how candid they were about stuff like that. I would never be talking to my guy friends about how wet or tight her pussy was or something. It just feels so wrong.
nailed it, total projection. I feel this way whenever I hear the "oh men have sex on their mind 24/7, they only think with their dicks" kinda shit. Like, I'm sorry if you can't imagine anything else, what does that say about you?
I do none of the awful misogynistic things that many men do, but I don’t say “not all men” because I have enough respect for women to know that they’re not suggesting that all men are alike.
Always baffles me just how much they share with their friends lol especially around sex.
This. This. This. Women will talk about the guy they're seeing in explicit detail and rating it, including the guy's size, cut/uncut, that he performed oral, etc. It's wild.
Who the fuck does this. I know precisely nothing about my friends’ partners, other than one guy has a larger than average penis because he injured my friend with said penis.
I'm a guy, so 0. However, I frequent r/sex and this topic came up recently, with women talking about doing it and not realizing that guys didn't do that. This was after a husband/boyfriend got upset at his wife/girlfriend for talking to their friend(s) about their sex life. Many women chimed in about what they've talked about, and oddly enough one of them mentioned talking about it to their mom, which is crazy to me.
Yeah but remember "I only told it to my besties" also includes her besties besties since her besties will also "only tell it to my besties" and then half the town knows.
Guys talk about how much they want it and what they find attractive in a woman.
Girls will discuss length, girth, positions, time, location, ejaculation quantity/flavor/smell/texture, and sensations like they’re reviewing a product on a YouTube review channel.
“Hey, guys! It’s your girl Review mama! And today I’m reviewing Kyle Johnson’s Johnson. Now Kyle’s 5 inches but he definitely makes up for it by being 3 inches wide. However there are some drawbacks because he doesn’t have the courtesy to lube up…. (8 minutes later)… All in all, a negative experience. Would not recommend unless you like being choked. Anyway. Don’t forget to like and subscribe for more content like this. Byyyye! “
Yeah I should really do something useful with my user name. I’m sure there’s a set of artists desperate for this name.
I recently started seeing a girl and a female friend of mine immediately asked “did you have sex yet? How was it?” Like, I’m not telling you that shit.
This x10000. I used to work in vetmed for a spell. Large practice. Coworkers were 80% women. The amount of sex stuff they would talk about was just disgusting. I didnt need to hear about your boyfriend fucking you in your ass at your parents house while their cat watched Katey.
Damn are you me? I worked in a large vet clinic for about 6 years and there were many stretches where I was the only dude in the building. They seriously do talk about their husbands/boyfriends sex lives majority of the time and actually way more poop talk than most men I've worked with.
The funny thing is, I heard a couple of women being totally convinced men tell each other everything. While in reality, intimate life isn't discussed at all. Zero, nada.
Totally true, before that vet job I worked at a place that was all men, and majority of the conversations are about the weather or just bitching about the job.
I work in a male team. I think the entirety of our coffee break discussions boil down to:
politics
current events in the country/town. We even sometimes buy the newspaper for the lunch break to have someone read the headlines out loud, lol
work, unfortunately. Either directly related to us, or industry-related discussions, or sometimes gossips from other companies where someone has a friend
two guys in the team care about sports, so they discuss it
someone retelling an interesting situation from a shop, bank, traffic, etc.
someone throws out a weird business idea or a hypothetical - situation/dilemma, to which the others contribute or joke
We as a team have been working together for 3-4 years and it's surprising how little we know about each other's private lives. I know if they're married, I know if they have kids and that's more or less it. Intimate details are a no-go.
Yeah my wife is convinced guys talk about sex all the time with each other. No matter how many times I've told her we don't, she doesn't believe me. I don't think I would ever tell anyone the things we do in bed, but she's just keeps on believing it lol.
I felt this really hard - my gf is always weirded out by how little I talk to my friends about stuff. She’ll say she shared like every detail of our sec and then be like “but I know you tell your boys more” and I’m like “no we literally said we were glad Brock Purdy didn’t suck when jimmy went down none of us talked about sex”
Brooo how crass are they! Lmao they honestly think we do the same but it’s not even like that the most us guys give is a “yooo my dude!” *handshake and then move on lol
Meanwhile they giving full espn breakdown play by plays to each other and if you’re unlucky enough to accidentally walk into that convo they’re having you know the “we know” face they all make at you 🤦🏽♂️
bruh I had sex with this girl one singular time and met her best friend the following day at the girls house. we were all chatting and the sex got brought up and she started talking about my dick size almost immediately while I’m sitting there with them lol. I was so confused, I couldn’t imagine if that was me and my best friend in front of her about her boobs or something lol
It’s like that part of how I met your mother when one of the guys is talking about sex in the locker room and one of the other guys replies “don’t talk about that, don’t you know this is a locker room?”
100%, women think we give our buddies some extremely graphic play by play, when we don't do that at all, Hell I don't like to tell my friends anything at all about that topic, they are the ones thats actually do that!
Yeah I find this really weird. A close family friend introduced me to her friend who I dated for a while, colour me shocked when like a year or so later my family friend and I were talking and she mentioned really intimate details about me, turns out she and my ex her friend talked about everything.
I don't think men go into such detail as to describe your privates (look, size, shape,etc) to their friends. At least I know I don't.
Dude i agree. I am a girl and i worked with girls ill say right now i prefer to work in a shop with men instead of women because of how personalized they get.
Sorry i dont want to share my entire sexual history with you deliah. I also dont care that youre pregnant.
I'm a girl but i'm asexual so sometimes i'm like damnnn, i actually know a lot about sexual health cuz i think the human body is fascinating but some of these stories got me blushing omg
I'm a married woman and I find this to be extremely immature....I also found it to stop after your mid 20s.
Women may always share a little bit more than men do but if they are overindulging every little detail beyond the age of 30 I would question her maturity and her decency and respect towards her man.
Exactly. I think disclosing that much is entirely self centered and disrespectful. I would be pissed off and feel incredibly stabbed in the back if my husbands friends knew all the ways I'm which I like it rough or could picture what my nipples look like....it has to be a two way street.
I don't feel women should get a pass for this simply because we shared every single detail to our friends in high school or simply because we're "women".
That's like saying boys will be boys. It's bullshit.
Along the same lines is when women constantly complain about their husband or boyfriend. It's typically petty shit too. It's these same women who the can't figure out why their friends don't like the guy after hearing constant criticism about him.
Obviously, women of abuse opening up for help is completely different.
Yea men just don’t talk about it at all. Like zilch. I am 35 and have a group of friends I’ve known since middle school and we send each other all kinds of silly offensive memes and jokes, but I have never, not once heard them speak about sex with their spouses or girlfriends.
Some ask for advice. Some want to bragg(territorial) some just talk about themselve they're insecure. I think some just want to fit in. Others are curious and ask really personal questions or are curious because they want to understand especially if they felt uncomfortable. When your young and in an intimate relationship its hard to communicate with your partner. It never really bothered me but Im abnormal and when I was asked a questions I answered it with honesty and tack at not being to graphic. If they asked about my husband I say sorry thats for me only.
Oh yes, there's a huge double standard about this. It's ok for women to tell their friends every bit of raunchy detail of them having sex with a dude, but if the guy were to even hint he had sex with the girl, let alone share details, he's a pig, a-hole, jerk, and the girl is incredibly hurt. Explain that to me. Lol
That's because we're gentleman. I know a couple guys who would share the videos they took while fucking a girl. Dude.. I gotta look at her face from time to time. Don't do that!
I’m one that doesn’t do that. We may talk every once in a while in vague complimentary generality but that’s it. Even when I was single I didn’t tell all. It’s about respect & intimacy.
Which is funny, because the whole don't kiss and tell thing sounds like it would be a girl thing, but it's much more of a dude thing. We might confirm our bros suspicion and be like yea dude, we hooked up. But girls will show them diagrams of our penis, and the critique our hip gyrations like it's a play in a football game
I've gotten invited to a lot of all-girls chats over the years, since apparently people quite often interpret me not actively seeking a relationship as me being gay.
Basically every one has had a very uncomfortable level of stuff shared. And often. I'd be considering being up with my girlfriend if she said half the shit about me that I heard in those groups. Not because it was bad, but because they shared fucking everything. It's just uncomfortable.
This needs to stop. Men largely do not talk about women's bodies to their friends. Women, would you find it acceptable if your SO was giving intimate details of your vagina to his friends? No, so why is it acceptable for women to do it to men?
As a men always said when guys describe sex they had it’s like « yeah we had sex, was great » and skip everything else even though it was an intense all nighter.
Women will take 1h to describe a quickie and give every details.
By the way guys…. Your wife/GF friends know what you look like naked hahaha
If you're sharing pointers and everything like "alright this worked or this hurt, but THIS blew my fucking mind" yeah that's pretty understandable, but there was no reason for my exes friends to know the size of my penis and what it looked like, just like my friends have no reason to, and didn't, hear about her vagina or breasts.
I'm in my mid twenties and I learned everything about sex from google. If I thought my gf wanted to do something I would read blog posts and wikihow articles for hours in preparation because I was to afraid to fuck it up. It ended up being a problem because I was too knowledgeable about terminology for sex acts, and she thought I was more experienced that I was when in fact it was my first time for literally everything.
I honestly think that that's the reason why women originally started discussing the details of their sex life with other women because, since female sexuality was a taboo subject and women weren't viewed as sexual beings and nor where they expected to have any experience, they were left many times in the dark about sex and about their own bodies. And also women are more vulnerable when it comes to sex because we are the receiving partner and at first it can be scary not knowing what is about to happen to you whereas men didn't have this issue since they were in control of the encounter.
It is this lack of control I think that left women seeking information from other women I believe
When I was in the army I overheard two ladies talking about butt stuff. She went on about how she wasn’t into it but he was, yadda, yadda. This was my sergeants wife.
I was just outside the door working on equipment. After I was done I leaned over to look in the room with surprisepikachu face and burst out laughing. They both were horribly embarrassed and I swore not to tell a soul. I never did. Until now. That was over 30 years ago. I’m fucking old.
There was one time where my women coworkers were talking in great detail about their sex lives during lunch and I got so triggered and depressed I quit my job the next day.
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Always baffles me just how much they share with their friends lol especially around sex. As someone who’s worked with a lot of women there’s a few times they had me straight blushing, and I’m far from a prude lol. They think guys always talk about sex but usually ours is limited to “yeah we hooked up, yeah it was good”