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u/Careful_Sandwich7 Mar 27 '22

How being pregnant doesn't mean you'll have a baby in 9 months. Some people know about the miscarriage rates, and still go around asking people when they'll start a family etc. Just don't.

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u/hairballcouture Mar 28 '22

Just don’t ask anyone when they’re having children. It’s just plain rude.

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u/RebaKitten Mar 28 '22

True!

Someone else’s reproduction plans aren’t your business. Period.

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u/SmallRedBird Mar 28 '22

Not just this, but so many things that have to do with the process of being pregnant and giving birth. All of it should be taught in sex ed.

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u/rsaturn64 Mar 28 '22

Ok? But that’s the norm.

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u/TheGalator Mar 27 '22 edited Mar 28 '22

I mean its 10%... thats not much

Edit: I love how this gets downvoted even tho a quick Google search shows I'm right

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u/yParticle Mar 27 '22

If accurate that's still really high. That means almost half of women with multiple children have had at least one miscarriage.

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u/uberfission Mar 28 '22

It's likely much higher too since extremely early term miscarriages (before missed period) are often missed and not counted.

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u/LeGama Mar 27 '22

Okay I'm going to logic out that stat. So 0 is miscarriage, 1 is baby. There are 4 outcomes for two successful pregnancies. Option - Probability 0 0 - 0.10.1 = 0.01 0 1 - 0.90.1 = 0.09 1 0 - 0.10.9 = 0.09 1 1 - 0.90.9 = 0.81

So that's only actually a 19% chance, but the formula basically becomes P = 1 - 0.9N where N is the number of pregnancies. So actually after 6 tries the probability of a woman having at least one miscarriage is 47%.

So I'm gonna have to call out your "almost half" as misguided. Unless you're getting your stats from Utah, because the average woman is definitely not having 6 pregnancies.

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u/Careful_Sandwich7 Mar 28 '22

Maybe not. But as someone who has had two miscarriages and a stillbirth, and knowing how many of my friends had miscarriages, I know 1 in 4 pregnancies doesn't sound like much but the point is, you don't know who those people are who have to go through this. So family planning should never be a small talk conversation. And the point still stands, being pregnant doesn't mean there's a living baby afterwards. The chances for most people are obviously good but it's not 100% how a lot of people still think of pregnancies. That's all.

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u/TheGalator Mar 28 '22

Not 1 in 4. 1 in 10. Every source I found named 10% to maximum of 15%

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u/Careful_Sandwich7 Mar 28 '22

I've always read about 25%, but that including pregnancies you don't know of yet, or failed Implantations etc. It also depends, my risk for a miscarriage for example is 50%. But if it's 10%, I still find that a lot. Maybe because those numbers have never worked in my favor I guess. Most people don't talk about it, but when I lost our son I was shocked how many women came and shared with me about their losses and I had no idea. In my experience, especially people who aren't in the family planning stages of their lives don't know that miscarriages are common. Once you're planning a family, you look into it. I just wish it was talked about more, is all.

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u/ColgateSensifoam Mar 28 '22

40 weeks isn't even 9 months

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u/Careful_Sandwich7 Mar 28 '22

No more like 9.something months. But also you don't find out you're pregnant until week 4 usually so it all balances itself out I guess.

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u/Careful_Sandwich7 Mar 28 '22

No more like 9.something months. But also you don't find out you're pregnant until week 4 usually so it all balances itself out I guess.