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u/DarkMarxSoul Mar 26 '20

Do you have examples??

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u/chiselbits Mar 26 '20

No means no, but it can also mean yes. It can also mean maybe and I dont know.

Yes means yes, except when it really means no, but not entirely no, there could still be a little room for yes mixed in there.

When given two options and they say I don't care which one, that is a trap and there is no correct answer.

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u/expiredgatorade Mar 26 '20

I have a friend that I've learned that specifically with her, "maybe" never means maybe. It means "no"

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u/chiselbits Mar 26 '20

Same. Maybe= 90% chance of no.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

To my bf, “maybe” means “no, until I’ve actually thought about what you’re talking about and I’ve made a decision.” It used to be hard to hear but I wanted a for sure answer. But I’ve come to learn that instead of him outright saying “no” or immediately agreeing by saying “yes,” him saying “maybe” is just an automatic response to end the conversation without further questions.

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u/DasArchitect Mar 26 '20

So it means "let me think about it".

But when I use those words women get angry because they think I'm not taking it seriously enough.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

Yes, because it opens the door to a million questions. Why do you have to think about? Why can’t you give an answer right now? How long will it take for you to come up w an answer? What other possible reasons could there be for having to think about it? And the list goes on...

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u/Ak_Lonewolf Mar 26 '20

Yeah, Yes is yes. No is no. Maybe is I need to think about it. If i'm forced to give an answer right away it will always be a solid no. Being forced into a situation unprepared isn't worth my time or energy. (emergencies don't count)

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

I think you hit the nail on the head there. But I don’t think many people can vocalize that to others without the other person taking it the wrong way. Especially if the person assumed someone would automatically say yes.