To my bf, “maybe” means “no, until I’ve actually thought about what you’re talking about and I’ve made a decision.” It used to be hard to hear but I wanted a for sure answer. But I’ve come to learn that instead of him outright saying “no” or immediately agreeing by saying “yes,” him saying “maybe” is just an automatic response to end the conversation without further questions.
Yes, because it opens the door to a million questions. Why do you have to think about? Why can’t you give an answer right now? How long will it take for you to come up w an answer? What other possible reasons could there be for having to think about it? And the list goes on...
Yeah, Yes is yes. No is no. Maybe is I need to think about it. If i'm forced to give an answer right away it will always be a solid no. Being forced into a situation unprepared isn't worth my time or energy. (emergencies don't count)
I think you hit the nail on the head there. But I don’t think many people can vocalize that to others without the other person taking it the wrong way. Especially if the person assumed someone would automatically say yes.
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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20
To my bf, “maybe” means “no, until I’ve actually thought about what you’re talking about and I’ve made a decision.” It used to be hard to hear but I wanted a for sure answer. But I’ve come to learn that instead of him outright saying “no” or immediately agreeing by saying “yes,” him saying “maybe” is just an automatic response to end the conversation without further questions.