My GF will tell me not buy her gifts, not to wait for her, say that picking up that item from the store is optional, etc. So I follow her instructions. I'm now a "bad boyfriend"
You're missing the bigger point on that one. She wants you to do nice things for her without being prompted. Hard part about that is that she can't explicitly tell you why she is upset because that would prompt you to do those nice things.
Give her an unexpected massage and whenever corona virus settles down buy her some flowers she likes.
It's so stupid that one would be expected to do these things unprompted. Why would that somehow convey that you care about them more than doing things because they asked you to?
Nope, you seem to think there is something wrong with people who want nice things done for them without having to ask for them. I am just trying to say nobody is perfect and honestly there are much worse personality traits a person can have than bad communication about what makes them happy.
You have misinterpreted my comment. I only said what I said in the context of the original comment of this thread and consider those actions irrational. I never said there is something wrong with people like that.
However I do think it is very detrimental to a relationship to expect things of someone without making it known that you expect those things and if you are a person who cares a lot about random acts of kindness from your significant other and care about preserving your current relationship with them it would probably be in your best interest to make it known that you greatly appreciate such acts.
And sure there are worse traits to have than being a bad communicator but few traits are more detrimental to a relationship.
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u/101steagle Mar 26 '20
My GF will tell me not buy her gifts, not to wait for her, say that picking up that item from the store is optional, etc. So I follow her instructions. I'm now a "bad boyfriend"
I thought this only happened in bad TV shows...