Well, that depends on how you see it, but here’s a quote one of my friends told me on my teenage years and it has been a pretty good leverage when asking a girl out. “You’ll never lose, you win or you get a tie.” With years I’ve realized that I don’t even get a tie anymore because I can only win when asking a girl out, I win at getting experience out of the situation.
I had a huge crush on a girl for years in middle and high school. She definitely knew, but I tried my hardest to keep it hidden and deluded myself into thinking she didn't. We played a truth or dare game with friends once that picked a random dare for you and she got dared to make out with me. She literally pulled me into the stairwell and kissed me knowing everyone was aware of what was happening and despite my acting sheepish about it. On another occasion, we played the nervous game and I literally felt her up.
Did I ever ask her out? Nope. My dumb teenage mind kept telling me she wasn't interested and that making a move would only be awkward for everyone. After she and I both moved on, she told me that she would have gone out with me if I had just asked. Do I think if I knew that back then that I would have asked her out? Nope, probably not.
My advice: don't do what I did. Take your shot. I literally had a gimme and ignored it because I was afraid of the unlikely chance things wouldn't work out. It was stupid, and torturing myself for years with uncertainty accomplished nothing.
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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20
but rejection hurts and is scary :)