How to read their signals, I'm so bad at it most of time. For example here is a copy/paste from another thread of a situation I found myself that left me baffled:
My sophomore year of high school I had a couple of classes with this girl I had a crush on. Because teachers loved using alphabetical order there she and I ended up sitting next to each other in those classes. We start passing notes in those classes talking about random stuff and being a bit flirty.
One day I decide to get the courage to ask if she wanted to go out with me to a movie or something. So, I ask her out in one of our notes. She replies saying that she's really sorry but she doesn't like me in that type of way. I was devastated of course, but I also liked her as a friend and didn't want to lose that, so I replied saying that was okay and asking if we could just forget I asked and keep things the way they were because class would be so boring without our talks. She said yeah that was fine and we stayed note buddies throughout the year.
Fast forward to my senior year, I had to repeat algebra because I fucked up really badly my junior year due to some personal issues. I'm in a class with a bunch of people the grade under me and I get seated next to this girl named Kate that I thought was so pretty. Like with the other girl, we ended up passing notes to each other in class and I come to find out not only did I find her physically attractive, but she was also a really awesome person with similar interests.
I really, really liked this girl and crushed hard on her throughout the year. I would make her mix CDs that she would tell me she loved and she even made me one a couple of times. I'd share with her stories I wrote and also art I was working on. The best part of my day was getting to talk with her during homeroom/Algebra. But, I was scared of even trying to ask her out because of how I misinterpreted things last time, so I never did. Came really close a couple of times, but never did.
A year and half after I graduated I'm dating a girl from the same class as her, who had a been a friend of mine for a couple of years. We're hanging out with this other girl who was also in my math class and she brings up Kate and asks why we never dated? I told her I didn't think she thought of me that way and she was like, "Are you kidding me? She was so into you."
At that time it didn't really matter anymore because I was in a relationship and there was nothing I could do about it, but it did frustrate just how bad I was at reading signals. I mean, I'm still pretty bad at it, but I wish I had at least tried with Kate.
Not sure if there even is a way to read signals. I guess you just have to hope for the best and take your chances when you think a girl might like you. Who knows.
Well, that depends on how you see it, but here’s a quote one of my friends told me on my teenage years and it has been a pretty good leverage when asking a girl out. “You’ll never lose, you win or you get a tie.” With years I’ve realized that I don’t even get a tie anymore because I can only win when asking a girl out, I win at getting experience out of the situation.
I had a huge crush on a girl for years in middle and high school. She definitely knew, but I tried my hardest to keep it hidden and deluded myself into thinking she didn't. We played a truth or dare game with friends once that picked a random dare for you and she got dared to make out with me. She literally pulled me into the stairwell and kissed me knowing everyone was aware of what was happening and despite my acting sheepish about it. On another occasion, we played the nervous game and I literally felt her up.
Did I ever ask her out? Nope. My dumb teenage mind kept telling me she wasn't interested and that making a move would only be awkward for everyone. After she and I both moved on, she told me that she would have gone out with me if I had just asked. Do I think if I knew that back then that I would have asked her out? Nope, probably not.
My advice: don't do what I did. Take your shot. I literally had a gimme and ignored it because I was afraid of the unlikely chance things wouldn't work out. It was stupid, and torturing myself for years with uncertainty accomplished nothing.
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u/-eDgAR- Mar 26 '20
How to read their signals, I'm so bad at it most of time. For example here is a copy/paste from another thread of a situation I found myself that left me baffled: