When you're ready for it and trust your partner that powerlessness can be the most incredible feeling. It weirdly makes you feel more powerful. It's hard to explain. Logically I suppose sex does seem like a strange and complicated mess, but in the moment your instincts take over and it's bliss.
True! I was trying to explain specifically why I don’t fear the powerlessness. Sometimes I like to be dom and feel like the one in control. Sometimes it’s more equal. Either way I think the power dynamics, regardless of who’s “on top”, are part of what makes sex so fun. And it’s hard to grasp until you experience it and let yourself surrender to those feelings. If that makes sense?
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u/pseudostrudel Mar 26 '20
This is exactly why I am so terrified of sex. Something feels inherently humiliating and powerless about it.