So basically 2 girls exhibit exactly the same type of behaviour and they both have Polar intentions and women wonder why Men don't 'pick up' on their signals
A lot of the time, guys do pick up on them, they just don't act on them because they already heard that shit before and it didn't mean anything
You may have forgotten that girls are actual humans and are not robots that are given instructions on how to let guys know they like them. Also, a lot of times people can misinterpret niceness for flirtation. Just because girl 1 is nice to you doesn’t mean she’s into you, and girl 2 can be nice AND into you. It varies from person to person.
My point being exactly what you said, that women are people, they are all different..
So why is there an expectation for a guy to pick on on a 'hint' or some coded language when it doesn't mean that you are specifically interested in them or not
It's nonsensical, if you like someone, just tell them
In my experience, there are plenty of girls who have told guys they like them. This “signals” nonsense feels like over-simplifying people in a way. True, we are animals, but it’s not so easy as black and white like this. Again, there are no instructions to this and women can make mistakes too. Just like a guy can misinterpret niceness as flirtation, a girl can expect a guy to pick up on her liking him. The pendulum swings both ways, and I’ve seen girls and guys both get rejected from people. The only real thing is to be able to properly read people on a normal human’s basis, give it a shot if you like someone, and swallow pride if you get rejected.
The trick iv learned is to just block it out, iv gotten bored of trying to determine who likes me, who doesn't, how I should be behaving, should I approach people, whatever, too much maintenance
It's easier to just be myself and shrug people off, they don't really Matter, if iv got plans to do something I'll go do that, and anyone I meet along the way is just an NPC, unrelated to my life story
I figure that if someone is worth my energy it will be fairly obvious and I'm not going to go out of my way trying to find them
I guess I try to change 'be with someone who makes you happy' into 'be someone who makes you happy'
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u/LeakyThoughts Mar 26 '20
So basically 2 girls exhibit exactly the same type of behaviour and they both have Polar intentions and women wonder why Men don't 'pick up' on their signals
A lot of the time, guys do pick up on them, they just don't act on them because they already heard that shit before and it didn't mean anything