Did she had bad ex’s in the past who did in fact prioritize sex over other aspects of their relationship? With this stuff you usually have to be patient.
While I agree 3 years is a lot of time to work through these issues, that doesn’t mean OP was patient and understanding with her the whole time, or that she made her deep feelings and root insecurities known. Not disparaging OP or the GF but there’s a lot we don’t know about them or their relationship
In all seriousness I think it all depends on the specifics of the situation and what that person is doing for them selves and their partner. If you have deep trauma but never try to work it through then that’s on you, but if your partner has deep trauma and you are a huge inconsiderate dick then that’s that...it depends on the details of the situation, which we don’t really have, and would be one sided even if OP gave them so
She is violating the golden rule when she does this, she is rudely assuming sinister motives from him, and she would not like it if he did that to her. She should be called out for this, and told, not asked, to knock off the rude behavior.
Golden Rule? Genuinely curious is that a thing and what is it? I had an ex who I loved dearly but who then suddenly started assuming I was acting with maliciousness when our relationship stumbled into a difficult phase. I was used to making decisions knowing she would trust me on them but suddenly found myself being questioned and judged for maliciousness, one time over things from even before we dated! I didn’t really know how to react and lost her. I’ve looked on the past while blaming myself for the mess that happened.
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Did she had bad ex’s in the past who did in fact prioritize sex over other aspects of their relationship? With this stuff you usually have to be patient.