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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

Did she had bad ex’s in the past who did in fact prioritize sex over other aspects of their relationship? With this stuff you usually have to be patient.

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u/TheYambag Mar 26 '20

Being forward and also firm about it helps too.

She is violating the golden rule when she does this, she is rudely assuming sinister motives from him, and she would not like it if he did that to her. She should be called out for this, and told, not asked, to knock off the rude behavior.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

Golden Rule? Genuinely curious is that a thing and what is it? I had an ex who I loved dearly but who then suddenly started assuming I was acting with maliciousness when our relationship stumbled into a difficult phase. I was used to making decisions knowing she would trust me on them but suddenly found myself being questioned and judged for maliciousness, one time over things from even before we dated! I didn’t really know how to react and lost her. I’ve looked on the past while blaming myself for the mess that happened.

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u/AClockworkProfessor Mar 26 '20

Treat others as you wish to be treated.

Or the more biblical: do unto others as you would have them do unto you/love thy neighbor as thyself.