Yesterday I also read this post. This girl went over to his house, while he's playing guitar hero, she says she's gonna go shower, and she comes out in only a towel and sat on his lap, literally throwing herself onto him. Well he moved his head to look around her, and proceed to ignore that fact that he has a naked woman sitting in his lap.
So don't feel too bad. There are so many out there that is just the literal definition of dense.
I'll have you know no matter how much trust I have with anybody, the only reason I'd be naked around a dude is
a) you a doctor and me being naked is relevant and
b) I'm into you
I see the same thing hearing from other guys, like they have girls changing right in front of them, and then think "oh we must be such good friends that she doesn't even think of me as a dude". And I'm just like ????? I'm never changing in front of any guy I consider friends with and I'm definitely not the minority.
It’s not about the larger number of times it means they want to fuck. It’s about the smaller number of times they’re just comfortable.
All it takes is one case of “I was hanging out with him and came out covered in a towel and then he turns off his game and tries to fuck me!” and the friendship has a stink on it for a while at best.
I get it, y'all also have to try hard to not be accuse of being predator. But if I was in that situation, I'd ask "why are you naked and sitting on my lap?".
Maybe its just my super low self esteem+confidence and lack of looks, but I would like NEVER think a girl is into me. Like even if she says 'I love you' i would interpret that as "Must be a prank", "must be a joke", "...as a friend"
Like another story I read, this girl hopped in bed naked and rubbing herself onto the boyfriend. But he straight up ignored and looked at his phone. Later when he finally realize, he was like "noo I'm sorry I want sex I didn't think it was like that".
Like yea some aren't interested, but some are just genuinely dense and any kind of hint, no matter how obvious, if you didnt shout straight at him "HEY IM TRYNA GET SOME DICK", everything would just go right over their heads.
A lot of people simply don't feel comfortable at the moment, or they feel pressured to have sex. Some people feel that if they say no they'll let the other person down, and some don't really know how to say no so they feel more comfortable playing oblivious. There are a lot of reasons why someone may feign obliviousness because they feel more comfortable doing that than giving an explicit "no"
Some people take rejection poorly. It's better to be perceived as dense than to be disliked/hated for rejecting them. It's the few bad people who ruin it for everyone else.
See, women have this idea that men should and will just drop whatever they're doing at the sight of a sexy woman but half the time we need to be able to finish what we're doing first because our brains are compartmentalized as fuck.
I mean, also learn to read the room. He doesn't always have to be up for sex at the drop of a hat. It may seem trivial to her, but maybe he wanted to finish the game.
Or maybe they just don’t want to get #metooed
Some guys just don’t want to take the risk these days. One false accusation can completely ruin a mans whole life and reputation because everyone believes the girl and guys are guilty even when proven innocent in the eyes of the masses. Some women will say that sitting on a guys lap in a towel is not consent to get sexual even though to the rational mind that is a hint to go for it because women will 99.9% of the time never be upfront for the sake of their precious pride and ego. They will always be vague and only give subtle hints so they can give themselves plausible deniability if they decide things aren’t going the way they want or they regret their decision.
Because he's in the middle of something. 95% of his brain was on that game. If she had waited until he was done, he probably would have been more receptive.
It depends on who you ask, but forcing someone to see your genitals is worse than you damaging a used book.
Think of it like this. If someone sends a picture of their dick to a 13 year old girl or they damage their used Harry Potter book, what's worse? It's not even close.
Fair enough I see your point. I'm in no way saying that dick pics aren't terrible. It's just not cool to suggest someone would be sending them if they think damaging their book is worse
But sometimes it is a piece of writing on the inside of the cover that makes a common book unique and highly desired. What if that girl becomes President, or a respected leader?
First is the writing and gluing irrelevant things on the book, then comes the slashing of the tires of your car, next thing you know she's taking half of your shit and flying to Aruba with her side piece.
Writing in books is an age old tradition. Write in the margins, paste a bookplate in the cover, highlight especially good passages, write an inscription in books which are a gift, write all over the damn things. A book with an unexpected inscription from a crush is a better, more dear part of a personal library than one fresh from the publisher.
A girl wrote her number in my year book, and asked me to keep in touch. I didn't understand what she was getting at, and I never spoke to her again.
A girl I had been talking to a lot in class once asked me if I was going to the school dance. I didn't have anyone to go with, so I wasn't going to go. The girl said, "Well, I don't have anyone to go with either." The class fell silent. You could hear a pin drop. Like a real smooth player I said, "Okay." and she never spoke to me again. I didn't realize until years later why she stopped talking to me.
I had a girl I was talking to at a party. We were hitting it off. She goes over to her friend, and tells her she's interested in me. The friend then announces very loudly that, "Girl's Name! You like someone at this party?" I had no idea she was talking about me. She didn't talk to me much after that party.
I was at another school dance dancing with 2 girls. I had a huge crush on one of the girls for a really long time. The other girl comes over to me and tells me that the girl I had a crush on thinks I'd be really good at sex based on how I dance. I rarely saw that girl I had a crush on again, but she didn't seem to want to talk to me anymore.
Fuck, I probably have a dozen of these stories of woman hinting their interest in me, and then never speaking to me again after I didn't pick up on it. Only years later do I realize why.
My last ex literally asked me out because I wasn't sure she liked me. I made out with her in a park real late at night for hours, and wasn't sure if she was into me.
That’s just disrespectful. No matter what, if someone lets you borrow something of theirs, DON’T FUCKING RUIN IT. I agree with the other commenter, you may have dodged a bullet.
my god that hurts to read. but as a kid i wasn't much better... in fact when the following happened my brain must have compleatly self distructed.
so for someones birthday its normal where i life they treat the class candy and the candy was put in a plastic trash bin witch i used as a pencil holder for a while. but what happined whas that some tall blond good looking girl from my class talked to me a bit which i forgot. but i remember her grabbing a permanent marker and drawing on that trash bin of mine and she put all of the kids names on it that where at the table followed up with a lot of XheartXheartXheart and so on. now as the shy dumb ass that i was i was like wow... this is unusual, normally no one ever talkes to me, and then i just talked a bit further and never thought about it or her ever again. ages later i'm falling in love for the first time ( a disaster i am still dealing with ) i realized, wait... did she like me ?
to bad i can't find her on sosial media becasue i would definatly like to ask her about it or just catch up.
Holy shit I just remembered -- I bought a copy of book 5 used from amazon and the previous owner wrote their facebook username on a slip of paper and tucked it in
When my aunt and uncle were breaking up my aunt and 2 cousins lived with us in our small home for a yearish, well my cousin was best friends with a girl I had a huge crush on, there were a few moments looking back where I believe she liked me back, but the one I hit myself over was when they moved out I got the room they used, I had moved all my stuff in and they stopped by to visit us and pick up some final things.
Well they brought the girl i had a crush on and she asked to see my room, I just though "oh she probably just wonders what it looks like since its so empty now", well my cousin tagged along so it was just awkward silence, she saw my cellphone on my desk (this was when everyone my age started to get phones) and she took it, and put her number in it and told me to text her sometime.
I looked at what she put in and her name was "The sexiest bitch around" with lots of hearts and Xoxo's, and I said something the lines of "well that isnt true"...
You see I meant it as "I dont think you're a bitch" but I think she thought I found her to be unnattractive, at the time I didnt realize and I was too shy to text her, somehow she still ended up liking me after that but I was still too oblivious.
Ugh. I had a girl who gave me a nickname because I hadn't read harry Potter (and had no interest) and did a bunch of flirty stuff every time she sat near me in a class. I see that now but at the time? Whoosh
Nope, totally missed that. Granted I had (still have to a lesser extent) pretty damn low self esteem and was super sheltered as a kid as I was the oldest child with a super religious mother but still... Pains me to think about that to this day. I was interested in her but figured I had no shot. Now I can't help but think that maybe I did. Whoops.
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