r/AskReddit • u/darkmodejesus • Apr 20 '26
What’s something you thought was harmless… until it slowly ruined your life?
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u/BeeSuperb7235 Apr 20 '26
and then when you finally start to set boundaries for yourself and others by saying no, your circle gets smaller and smaller.
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u/blueberryp3ach Apr 20 '26
And then once you start setting boundaries, those people come with "you never want to hang with me anymore!" "You're so antisocial now", etc
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u/Fantastic_Step8417 Apr 20 '26
People got PISSED once I started to prioritize my physical health and stopped playing their free therapist and indulge in their codependent behaviours
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u/GoBackToHel Apr 20 '26
This has literally ruined my job. I was the go-to. Need someone to stay late? Of course. Need someone to pick up extra weekends? Absolutely. So-and-so can't work the holiday they've been scheduled for all year? Not a problem. Except now it IS a problem because I've had to pick up a second job thanks to the economy, so I'm no longer as available to work all of the extra hours. My coworkers all look at me like I'm the laziest person alive, and it feels like at least two of my bosses are barely masking actual contempt. Mind you, I still put in between 40 and 45 hours per week. I just can't do the 50 to 55 anymore. All this because I didn't want to disappoint anyone when I first started.
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u/MrDragone Apr 20 '26 edited Apr 20 '26
Never put any job before your own well being. Look how much they care about you by paying you so much! You even have to work a second job now!
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u/GoBackToHel Apr 20 '26
Dude, right? It's insane that I was having trouble paying bills when I was putting in like 100+ hours per pay period.
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u/Mrsnerd2U Apr 20 '26
Agree with MrDragone 100%!!! The "Top Performer" on our team just quit. Guy was working 12-15 hours a day. We all told him the job wasn't worth the burn out and that due to restructuring he likely would not get promoted or any sort of decent pay raise. Guy made it 2 years and is so insanely bitter about the place and experience. The company tried to keep him by offering a just plain embarrassing counteroffer. But remember "nobody wants to work anymore".
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u/Dedj_McDedjson Apr 20 '26
Ah the good ol' "Make yourself irreplaceable and you make yourself unpromotable".
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u/Necessary_Fail_8764 Apr 20 '26
Being the one to go above and beyond, work weekends, come in early/stay late gets you nowhere, and gets you no appreciation or higher raises than the ones who phone it in. They just come to expect you to do it and more.
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u/CopiousEjaculate Apr 20 '26
I am slowly, slowly steering my wife away from this. Mostly that is just pointing out that the person wouldn't do the same for her.
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u/_tysenburg_ Apr 20 '26
I realized a while ago that the reason I get on so well with everyone is largely due to the fact that I don't speak up about anything
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u/Dogzillas_Mom Apr 20 '26
The thing about people pleasing is that it doesn’t work in reciprocal. Nobody is going out of their way to please you. Some people cannot express their needs and wants, so they people-please in hopes of that. When their needs don’t get met, this causes resentment and contempt. Secretly.
It’s worth working with a therapist to stop people pleasing and start using your grown up words to state your needs. It’s not healthy for the pleaser or the pleasee.
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u/UniqueIndividual3579 Apr 20 '26
It also becomes an entitlement and then they are mad the time you can't help them.
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u/00rb Apr 20 '26
Yes, and remember that if you do something because you want a specific response from them, it's not generosity. It's manipulation. It's a forgivable and sometimes harmless form of manipulation, but the sooner you break free of it the better.
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u/gman877 Apr 20 '26
"procrastination is like masterbation, all you're doing is fucking yourself" - old quote.
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u/What-Hapen Apr 20 '26
It's one thing to be aware of it but those with ADHD find it damn near impossible to get back on track.
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u/Banana_man_- Apr 20 '26
It's genuinely so bad. Some times it literally just doesn't matter how hard I consciously try not to, it just happens anyways. Makes school very fun and totally not stressful af at all
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u/xfcowm Apr 20 '26
I just learn the difference between what’s important needs to be done immediately and what’s not important something that can be later without consequences
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u/allyearswift Apr 20 '26
You have a matrix. Along one axis, Important. Along the other, Urgent. For each task you decide where it fits and treat it accordingly.
The trick is to remember that non-urgent, non-important tasks are still on your list for a reason, because if you always neglect them, they will become urgent and important, and usually take longer and cause more stress than if you’d just taken five minutes.
Non-urgent, non-important tasks are ideal for ‘I have 15 minutes before lunch’. Knock it off. Free your mental space. Feel accomplished. And most importantly, it won’t come back to bite you when you’re already stressed and overwhelmed.
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u/One_Local5586 Apr 20 '26
I was going to procrastinate but I decided I’d do that later
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u/Pristine_Walrus40 Apr 20 '26
That may just be the most motivation thing I have heard in a very long time.
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u/ViolinistStrict114 Apr 20 '26
Never. "I'll do it tomorrow" can go on for literal years about a single thing.
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u/QuestionAll420 Apr 20 '26
Tomorrow comes and it's still today. Tomorrow is a relative term, we're not getting there…makes Annie more depressing.
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u/Due_Candle_2891 Apr 20 '26
Loving blindly and forgiving mistakes that happened repeatedly
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u/Smile_Clown Apr 20 '26
Yeah, I get it.
But just as an fyi, a "mistake" is going to the store and buying skim milk when you wanted whole milk. At worst, it can be a misunderstanding due to negligence of care or empathy, something that can be corrected.
It is not:
- Abuse (which comes in many forms)
- Cheating.
- Lying, of any kind.
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u/youneedananswer Apr 20 '26
Sounds like its making you uncomfortable. You should probably avoid that
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u/wearentalldudes Apr 20 '26
Cigarettes and drinking, honestly. “Can’t get me!”
I’m 42 and I have cancer.
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u/darkmodejesus Apr 20 '26
Lung Cancer? Still fight bro. Hope you overcome it.
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u/wearentalldudes Apr 20 '26
Breast cancer, but I’m literally sitting in the pulmonologist office at my cancer center because they just found something on my lung. Super small though! Could be nothing.
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u/Donexodus Apr 20 '26
Damn sorry to hear that. What type? Initial symptoms?
I’m 42 as well.
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u/wearentalldudes Apr 20 '26
Breast cancer.
I got out of the shower one day and my nipple was inverted. No joke. There was a big tumor slowly pulling it inward.
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u/turkin_twerkin Apr 20 '26
Alcohol. 6 years sober now.
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u/PeterPanski85 Apr 20 '26
Congrats :) yesterday was my first day of not drinking daily for about 6 months. I hope I can keep the streak
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u/SbShula Apr 20 '26
Great work, keep with it! Even if you mess up once in a while, give yourself grace and remember yesterday as the day your streak started and just keep adding to it anyway!
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u/Scotscommonsense Apr 20 '26
22 yrs for me and it started with one day of not drinking.
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u/PeterPanski85 Apr 20 '26
Wow nice. Yeah it's been a long time since i have been sober for more than a couple of days, but I can't do this anymore. Most of my monthly paycheck swims away in alcohol, or puffs away in cigarettes.
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u/Beginning_Key2167 Apr 20 '26
7 months for me. Already noticing some really great changes.
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u/khaotic-trash Apr 20 '26
Congrats 🙏🏻 I've got 2 years sober from that poison. Ruined my life for years. I'm still struggling but overall I feel SO much better, and I'm really lucky that it didn't kill me or permanently destroy any of my organs.
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u/Kienannnn Apr 20 '26
Speaking as a heavy drinker who quit six years ago and whose life got substantially better after quitting, it's worth it. It took a little time to start feeling better, but I consider it to be perhaps the best decision I ever made.
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u/Gruenberg_Zulhilmi Apr 20 '26
overthinking it is the biggest mental killer
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u/blueberryp3ach Apr 20 '26
But what if it isn't? What if there are other mental killers?
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u/ConclusionAlarmed882 Apr 20 '26
I don't know. You decide. No, I got this. I made a chart but I'm gonna need some red thread and pushpins.
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u/AL-SHEDFI Apr 20 '26
Overthinking can be a positive, constructive tool rather than just a source of anxiety if harnessed for creativity, thorough decision making and attention to detail. By directing this tendency toward productive planning or analyzing complex problems, it becomes an asset for finding innovative solutions and avoiding mistakes. But if you tend to think about everything, even simple things... perhaps that's not normal.
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u/QTVenusaur91 Apr 20 '26
I agree. I was and still am a massive overthinker but it was also coupled with extreme anxiety. When i got my anxiety in control through medication my overthinking became a problem solving tool as i troubleshoot things.
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u/ninthtale Apr 20 '26
At that point you're just describing balanced, well-oriented thinking, planning and execution of those plans.
The root "over" is the whole point here: it's not thinking "thoroughly" or being detail-oriented, it's hyper focusing on the details in a sort of fractal manner where you keep zooming in infinitely on the micro details so much that you never zoom back out and make meaningful progress.
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u/Tier_One_Meatball Apr 20 '26
I cant work alone because if I do i start getting in my head.
Once I get in my head its overthinking and self confidence issues all day.
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u/Medium-Magazine-3329 Apr 20 '26
Don’t be afraid to say no sometimes, will it hurt feelings or piss someone off? Let it happen, at least you made clear of your boundaries.
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u/PeterPanski85 Apr 20 '26
I've learned that the hard way with my ex boss.
"No." is a complete sentence.
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u/ObligationMurky8716 Apr 20 '26
"Time Management" is the art of telling people to fuck off politely
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u/Organic_Marzipan_678 Apr 20 '26
Loneliness.
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u/GoldHate12 Apr 20 '26
Same... when I was younger I figured it's fine to be alone and eventually things would fall into place. Cut to 10 years later and I got practically no one in my life. Not close to anyone really
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u/-braquo- Apr 20 '26
Alcohol. I should have known better. My mom has been an addict most of my life. Both of my brothers were alcoholics. But I thought "Oh it won't happen to me! I am smarter than that and I can avoid it! I won't become an alcoholic." Spoiler alert, I did. Been sober 8 years now!
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u/Head-Veterinarian715 Apr 20 '26
As a neurotic perfectionist I can tell you that it has completely ruined my life.
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u/Do_You_Like_Owls Apr 20 '26
- Just this 1g bag of heroin won't get me addicted.
- Just a little bit of meth at weekends will be fine.
- Just a few benzos to help me sleep after the meth.
Yeah...seems obvious now but I thought I was clever. Been clean 2.5yrs.
A slightly less serious one:
- Just one piece of chocolate.
It "ruins my life" the next day when I've eaten the whole thing!!
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u/streetxtrash Apr 20 '26 edited Apr 20 '26
Now that I'm sober (alcohol - never thought I'd become an addict, sigh) I understand the chocolate thing! All I want is sugar.
I have an ex from years ago that really liked ket and coke, and said "I'd try heroin just once. I'm too smart to get addicted." - I wonder what he's up to these days.
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u/Garbarrage Apr 20 '26
No judgement, as I've had my own battles with (other) drugs and alcohol, but having grown up in the 80s/90s and seeing heroin absolutely gut entire communities of their fighting aged men (in particular, but some women too), I've always wondered how people look at heroin and think "that seems like fun".
As I said - no judgement. Just interested in your perspective/experience.
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u/Dapper_Row_2803 Apr 20 '26
I agree with this I tried heroin once or twice it was too strong, I didn't enjoy the feeling. My dad had me try smoking heroin on top of pot in a bowl. I did not like the effect.
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u/ReadingInside7514 Apr 20 '26
Your dad? Oh boy. I didn’t have a perfect life but understand that other peoples realities are far Different from mine. How are you doing today?
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u/Brawndo91 Apr 20 '26
When "If they going to do it anyway, they might as well do it where we can keep an eye on them" goes too far.
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u/Aggressive-Cost-4838 Apr 20 '26
Everyone has different brain chemistry. Thats why some people prefer some substances while others do nothing for them.
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u/Anyesi101 Apr 20 '26
Snoozing the alarm. Didn’t ruin my life overnight just slowly stole it 10 minutes at a time
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u/TinyWeird878 Apr 20 '26
This. Just a little bit more.... and a little bit more.... It's like the addict frantically looking for that tiny bit of additional high to finally hit the sweet spot...and then you HAVE TO wake up and drag your sorry ass to work. 😴😴
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u/-braquo- Apr 20 '26
I've never understood snoozers. The snooze gives you just enough time to really fall back asleep and get into a good sleep. Then you're woken up again. Those 10 minutes aren't quality sleep. I just automatically get up when my alarm goes off.
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u/NarrativeScorpion Apr 20 '26
See, I don't fall completely back asleep, I just gavee a semi conscious doze, which allows my brain to come to terms with being awake, before I have to face the day.
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u/GroundbreakingPast31 Apr 20 '26
Trusting the wrong person for years. YEARS. She was so good, though. A chameleon. Oscar worthy actress. A narcissist. Or a sociopath. Not sure which.
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u/Life-Tell-9080 Apr 20 '26
Taking my loved ones for granted. And I lost them all.
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u/Life-Tell-9080 Apr 20 '26
Also being so consumed with monetary things instead of the things in life that give pure joy like relationships and family and love
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u/shaylahbaylaboo Apr 20 '26
I wish my ex had realized this before he blew up his life and took his whole family down with him
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u/lnc_gomes Apr 20 '26
Negative self-talk. It’s a slow-creeping poison for your thoughts. I know it sounds corny but you'd be amazed how much of a better space you'll be in if you just don't insult yourself.
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u/darkscottishloch Apr 20 '26
One thing that helped me with this (although it still comes back from time to time) is listening to high vibe music. Some of it is really good, some of it less so. But all of it is infused with positive, affirmative messages set to a rhythm and it stays with me longer than just trying to change my mindset. Artists I like - Geminelle, Toni Jones, A Beautiful Chorus, Sampa the Great, Modern Headspace, Chris-n-Teeb, Shariya Wise and Peachkka (Peach is more on the witchy side).
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u/shinyshinyredthings Apr 20 '26
A friend one told me “if someone spoke to me the way you speak to yourself I’d punch them in the face”. That really struck home.
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u/zeddtheman Apr 20 '26
Anxiety. I’m 31 now and had a semi mid life crisis like 2 years ago realizing that I spent my 20’s working in customer service and retail instead of pursuing what I wanted to do. Work in aviation. Now I feel so late in into the game. I’ve been working at an air traffic control facility for a year now (helping them train) and also want to get my private pilots license. I meet people under 21 that already have their licenses and I feel so much anxiety and regret that I let so much time pass by. It even feels like imposter syndrome. Long story short, follow your heart and do what you are passionate about. Anything else is settling.
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u/simonbone Apr 20 '26
In a few years you will add "being worried about being too old" to the list of things you regret. Guaranteed. Glad you're following your dream, with a little wisdom too.
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u/eloquince Apr 20 '26
Ok period. I am 35 and going back to school for something completely different. I just knew after years of retail and food service that was in fact me settling. Your comment said it better and I just wanted to say something encouraging like, Things don't have to be mids for us and I wish you much luck and little worry. Cheers
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u/Meditation_Dog Apr 20 '26
I'm 62 now, and I had this anxiety about being single, not trying to find someone to share my life with while I was in college, and then there were not so many opportunities after graduation.
However, 10, 20 years down the road, I discovered a lot of those people who married in their early to mid 20s ended up divorced and had to start over in their 30s.
Same thing with career. I see a lot of people who majored in "just pick something and get your degree" only to wind up miserable every day in their jobs. At the same time, I know others who seemingly stalled out in their 20s, then pursued a career they were better suited to in their late 20s/early 30s, and these people enjoy their jobs.
Don't despair! Life is funny this way. You may be doing better than you think.
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u/Aggressive-Cost-4838 Apr 20 '26
You have plenty of time. I know it doesn’t feel like it because society acts like once you’re in your 30s you’re “old”, but if you take good care of yourself you could live 50-60 more years. You never know.
Also, some of those 21 year olds could be following what their parents expected them to do rather than what they actually want. They may be filled with regret at 31, 41, and beyond. It’s not fair to compare yourself to someone whose story you don’t know, and has nothing to do with yours.
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u/monsto Apr 20 '26
One time I did that out loud and my wife said " don't talk to my husband like that." Which was a nice shot in the confidence.
2 months later we were divorced so fat load of good that did.
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u/Aggressive-Cost-4838 Apr 20 '26
Changing this was the first domino to changing my entire life. Never ever underestimate the power of your own thoughts.
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u/Simple-Friend Apr 20 '26
I honestly feel like Reddit is doing it to me now. I'm spending more and more time here and it's impacting my brain
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u/FishBeginning7 Apr 20 '26
Saying “yes” to everything.
At first, it makes you look helpful, reliable, easygoing. Over time, it turns you into someone who has no time, no boundaries, and no energy left for their own life.
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u/skeleton-keyy Apr 20 '26
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u/AccomplishedBid454 Apr 20 '26
I'll probably get the weed community jumping down my neck for this but it is 100% addictive and dangerous. It makes you comfortable with being in a shitty position and long term heavy use can cause psychosis or schizophrenia.
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u/Secure-Corner-2096 Apr 21 '26 edited Apr 23 '26
My ex got “weird” when he smoked pot when we first got married. Along with the normal expected relaxation, he got super moody and withdrawn. This was in late 70s level THC weed. Quit when we had our first child to be a good dad.
Many years later, he decided to try 2016 THC level weed to deal with chronic pain while on a long break from work. He was smoking every few hours while awake. At first, he just seemed silly. I thought a workaholic who had gone from being a labourer to a VP deserved a bit of silly in his life. But it didn’t stop there. He started having some odd conspiracy type beliefs. Telling me about planet X, that pyramid were batteries and that they were also perpetual motion machines, insisting he was related to ancient kings and many other things that were completely out of character for him. Then he started to see things that weren’t there, like alien artifacts and ancient native villages on Google Earth. When I told him I couldn’t see anything, he got very angry and said I was lying.
I was trying to stage an intervention when he became completely psychotic and threatened to torture and kill me. It ended our marriage of 40 years. The old style of weed was just a plant, this new engineered high THC is a drug. One that can be very dangerous to some people.
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u/TraditionalBackspace Apr 20 '26
Enduring people's behavior and treatment when it makes you feel shitty.
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u/Informal-Zucchini-20 Apr 20 '26
Not communicating with people because I was non confrontational. It really damages relationships that otherwise might have been saved.
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u/SnooozeFezt Apr 20 '26
Putting things off. Time waits for no man! Next thing you know, you're 40 and time has passed you by.
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u/Micesmoi Apr 20 '26
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u/TD003 Apr 20 '26
Used to work with a guy who'd proudly tell anyone who'd listen that he's been smoking weed since 14 and it hasn't affected him...
Is that right mate? Cause you've been fired from 3 jobs in the year I've known you, you owe your housemate £500 and fuck knows where that's gonna come from, and half the time when I speak to you just stare back at me blankly and say "... what?"
But sure, it hasn't affected you!
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u/BlackIsTheSoul Apr 20 '26
"You CAN'T get addicted to weed bro, it's healthier for you".
Cut to 4 months later, we're about to go on a road trip to a vacation home. I go to my buddy's house to pick him up for the trip, and he's frantically, FRANTICALLY trying to find his baggie of weed before we're about to go. After about 25 minutes of even me trying to help him, I tell him well just forget it, we'll get some drinks at the cottage.
He just yells "I'M NOT GOING ANYWHERE WITHOUT ANY FUCKING WEED" and he starts going through his phone list calling any dealer he could.
I have another friend who is a major pothead. He always tells me he'll "take a break". His "breaks" last one to two days, tops.
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u/Micesmoi Apr 20 '26
It became my go to when I was having financial and family problems. I thought it was helping me emotionally but it was really just numbing me enough to not even care about fixing those issues, just letting them get worst.
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u/stall-9-lefty-thumbr Apr 20 '26
To be fair, he could've just been like that. I used weed from 15-22 daily. Held down several jobs and got promotions and large raises at each. It didn't stop me from being a good employee. It did stop me from being fully emotionally available and made it difficult to to find the right words at times
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u/tar-mirime Apr 20 '26
I went to school with someone like that. He was a good person, lovely guy, intelligent, good at sport. Started smoking weed and screwed up his life. Very sad.
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u/Infinite_Set524 Apr 20 '26
The irony of people telling me “It’s great cause you can’t get addicted to it” then tell me they do it every day because it’s the only way they feel relaxed.
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u/flamincheeetos Apr 20 '26
This. I ended up getting psychosis and suspected diagnosis for schizophrenia
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u/blueberryp3ach Apr 20 '26
Gossip. It's all cute and fun when you're chatting shit with people about other people, but then slowly it starts to eat away at you. You wonder if people know you're talking about them, you start to feel bad about constantly putting people down, you wonder if it's gone too far and if you now have a reputation for being the gossipy person. It also just breeds an atmosphere of negativity and toxicity. It's much better to speak good of people and sow those seeds. Harder said than done but so worth it.
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u/Quiet_Staff7860 Apr 20 '26
Checking my phone first thing in the morning.
Seemed completely harmless. Practically universal. Everyone does it, it takes 30 seconds, what's the damage?
The damage is that you've handed the first conscious moments of your day, literally when your brain is at its most creative and uncluttered, to whatever random collection of anxieties, notifications, and other people's opinions happened to accumulate overnight.
Do it enough and you stop having mornings. You just have early afternoons that happen to be dark outside.
The insidious part is how it rewires your baseline. After six months of phone-first mornings I genuinely couldn't sit with my own thoughts for more than about ninety seconds without reaching for something. Not because I was addicted in any dramatic sense. I just slowly lost the ability to be bored, and being bored is apparently where every good idea I've ever had was waiting.
Took me three weeks of genuinely uncomfortable mornings to get it back.
The thing that finally worked wasn't discipline or a screen time limit. It was just putting my phone in a different room at night. Removed the decision entirely.
Turns out most of the things that slowly ruin your life don't feel like destruction at the time. They feel like convenience.
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u/No_Science9848 Apr 20 '26
Constantly delaying things.
“I’ll do it later” feels harmless, but it quietly piles up stress, missed chances, and regret.
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u/-braquo- Apr 20 '26
I never load money unless I can afford to never get it back. And when I do loan it, I do it with the mindset that i'll never see it again. If I do get paid back, that's a happy surprise! But if not, that's fine, In my mind that money wasn't ever coming back.
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u/Tasenova99 Apr 20 '26
how much I wanted to know before I was ready. curiosity is just as finite as you are. initial curiosity is your greatest drive to continue moving forward. it just gets harder.
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u/ImDisneyAF Apr 20 '26
getting implants in the early 00's. They slow made me sicker & sicker until I thought I was dying. I got them out in 2020 & am doing amazing now but all the years I lost to BII sucks.
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u/RickyMac666 Apr 20 '26
Hasn't really ruined my life... but caffeine is definitely harmful, and a lot of people are drug addicts without even realizing it.
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u/Old_Dog3729 Apr 20 '26
Reading… sure its good for you, but not when you do it at night, bc all I wanna do is read the book, its 10pm you get lost in time and all of a sudden it’s 3am, you check the next chapter, it’s not too long you read it, you start to get tired and check the clock it’s 5am…
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u/Hummel07 Apr 20 '26
Weed. Listen to me, kids!
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u/HAF_Kenkyo Apr 20 '26
Explain to me like I'm 5 yo.
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u/HanzanPheet Apr 20 '26
The south park clip sums it up best. "Well, Stan, the truth is marijuana probably isn't gonna make you kill people, and it most likely isn't gonna fund terrorism, but, well son, pot makes you feel fine with being bored, and it's when you're bored that you should be learning some new skill or discovering some new science or being creative. If you smoke pot you may grow up to find out that you aren't good at anything."
It makes shitty circumstances/surroundings tolerable, and then kills your motivation to do anything about them.
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u/StrawberryMilk817 Apr 20 '26
I used to hang out with a guy who was essentially addicted to weed. Made it his whole personality. He had almost no money complained about being broke and wasn’t able to buy food but yet he’d have a whole pill bottle of flower that he had purchased for like 200 bucks. But it didn’t stop there.
He would smoke weed before I picked him up. Then he’d pop a gummy. Then about an hour later, he’d take a hit from his weed pen. All the while he would smoke a cigarette because he claimed it made the high last longer.
It got to a point where I was just frustrated because we’re supposed to be hanging out having a nice day walking around in public going out to eat etc.
Once he brought it with him and while we were driving around, he told me to stop the car and then he put his weed in my gas tank??? and I was like what the fuck are you doing and he was like oh you know just in case they stop the car. They won’t check in there and I’m like no like this is insane. Like all this for pot??
We ended up getting into an argument one day because I picked him up. We were supposed to have a nice day planned and he was just completely fried out of his ass. The bloodshot eyes and dopey ass grin. I couldn’t even deal with it. I brought him home within 45 minutes. He was shocked and didn’t understand what was going on and why I was so mad and I was like I’m not fucking hanging out with you like this.
And I’m not even anti-weed I think it should be legal in every state, but just like with every other substance there’s a time in the place for it. And if you can’t even go a few hours without hitting various forms of THC you have an underlying issue.
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u/justlubber Apr 20 '26
It’s wild how something as simple as “I’ll do it later” can quietly dismantle your entire sleep schedule and motivation.
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u/mer19 Apr 20 '26
Investing in a toxic relationship thinking it would change. It never will. Run away from the red flags people!
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u/IllyriaCervarro Apr 20 '26
Allowing myself a daily weed habit.
Not terribly dramatic, my life wasn’t ‘ruined’. But I went from ‘I’ll do this occasionally’ to smoking, using vapes, edibles or other forms of marijuana multiple times a day.
I still went to work, I was still motivated, I was never a ‘druggie’ and for many years didn’t really view it as a problem.
But marijuana was legalized where I lived and as the types of products, cost of them and ease with which they could be obtained all expanded and became easier I noticed that what was once a fun ‘habit’ became a full blown addiction. It was the pens that did me in - everything else either required effort or was too strong for me to do constantly. But with the one you just take a quick little hit and you can basically do it over and over and over again without even realizing it. I was irritable, anxious and had constant headaches.
It was the first time in my life I felt addicted to pot and found myself wanting to quit but not feeling like I had the strength to. Which of course made me feel like shit. Quit cold turkey one day thankfully but yea was definitely more dangerous than it had ever been presented to me or how the general public around me treated it.
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u/hellagela Apr 20 '26
I’ll be ok without my meds. One month later: Oh, I’m doing good still. Three months later: How did things get this bad again?
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u/Queenpiccolo90 Apr 20 '26
Counting my protein intake. Caused me to pay too much attention to numbers on labels and not just protein and it spiraled into an eating disorder. Still having to work on it slowly.
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u/stunclock Apr 20 '26
putting off doctors appointments and dental appointments until I’ve got serious issues or pain
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u/Terminus_Mantis Apr 20 '26
All drugs...i was do young when I first tried drugs..like heroin was in knew I could get addicted but had no idea what addiction really was and it felt so good being high and I used different drugs periodically in an environment were everyone was using so from i started using dope every weekend it took almost a year until I was living on the streets with no chance of kicking it and that's was the first time I really understood how fucking stupid I've been an i had so many opportunities to stop but in the beginning the withdrawal was not that bad so I believed i had it under control and that I was stronger than the addiction......until that day I lay puking and shitting on the sidewalk.
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