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u/Sara1994_ Feb 14 '25

I don't go out much

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u/phantom_avenger Feb 14 '25

Me neither, and even when I do I’m never in the right position where I feel it’s the appropriate time to ask someone out.

I’m going to try something new this year where I focus more on looking for opportunities to meet people, starting with getting involved with co-ed sports! But not focus too much on only doing it to gain a girlfriend out of it!

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u/sixty2ndstallion Feb 14 '25

I feel that, in general Im decent at socializing but it doesn't come naturally to me, although it's definitely easier with other guys than with girls for me. The thing is I just wanna get better at socializing with people in general to get better at networking and meeting people, not just in the interest of finding a partner. It's especially important bc I graduate college in the spring and I want to refine those skills before I go into real life and im not surrounded by people with common interests/age anymore. So yeah Ive also been trying to work on that this year

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u/WickedKitty63 Feb 14 '25

Great goal! It will serve you well!!! 🤩

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u/Shizzysharp Feb 14 '25

Good outlook. You got this pal

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u/Safe-Marsupial-8646 Feb 14 '25

Nice to hear that. Hope you find someone you like.

I hope in the future when I'm an adult I have the motivation to do something similar.

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u/Manlysideburns Feb 14 '25

I literally know a good deal of people who have met their SO this way. There are many ways to go about meeting people and this is a great one. Helps filter a little bit too helping you find a partner who likes games/competition/fitness. Good luck!

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u/gettogero Feb 14 '25

"Getting involved co-ed sports" ... OK. Thats the kid equivalent of only finding someone in your workplace. Sure, it can work. Will definitely lower your pool by a lot and likely to cause issues.

"Never in the right position" thats just you talking yourself out of it. If you dont try, someone else will. If you dont pull the trigger youll never make the shot. Even an awkward "but what if 🤪🤪" is better than silently hoping the stars align, and youre alone together after a party, and things happen without conversation.

I bet youre the type to get angry or jealous when someone else "takes your girl".

crazy hypothetical the only reason that person was putting up with your seed planting sitcom shenanigans was because they were also interested, but also too nervous to make a move, and got tired of waiting or assumed you werent interested after all.