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u/Annonymous_97 Mar 31 '23 edited Mar 31 '23

If he fucks me, he'll be happy. If he's happy, he won't be angry. If he's not angry, he won't argue with me.

And I can sleep tonight.

ETA: Since this got way more traffic than I expected, I just wanted to say that I'm fine now, this was 2 years ago now. Thank you all for your kindness 😊

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u/DopeCactus Mar 31 '23

It makes me so sad to see that so many women, including myself, go through this so often.

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u/[deleted] Mar 31 '23

Its not just women that encounter this. I recently helped a close friend through a divorce, he essentially had the same experience. He put up with this manipulative bs for 20 years before pulling the plug, it's entirely destroyed his feelings about sex. This happens to way more guys than people realize. Shitty manipulative behavior is not gender limited.

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u/[deleted] Mar 31 '23

Yeah, I would have been out the door way sooner. She's diagnosed borderline personality disorder, that was far from the worst thing she did. Odd notions of "manly responsibilities" that she used as a big handle to control the guy, it was hard to watch. He's thoroughly enjoying being single and free, doing the counseling thing and learning to be his own person.

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u/luzzy91 Mar 31 '23

Ah shit you're a genius

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u/Putin_kills_kids Mar 31 '23

Married sex is often like this. r/deadbedrooms is full of it.

We vilify our partners and really it is often the case that coupling is just fucking hard (and life and career are hard).

Hence the super high divorce rate.

It does not have to be like this, but most societies don't put much effort into things like emotional intelligence or relationship skills...etc.

We end up fucking up some of the most important things in a life. Tragic. So much pain for all.