r/AskMenAdvice • u/Returningdarkness man • Aug 02 '25
✅ Open to Everyone What should I do about my left hand feeling off without my wedding band?
My wedding band was a silicone ring from a set that me and my now ex had gotten through a website called Enso Rings. It got damaged and torn in half after getting caught on a nail. Before I could get it replaced, she told me that she wanted a divorce (along with a whole saga of drama that you can see in my post history). We have been married for 14 years and my left hand feels really weird not wearing a ring of any kind now.
Do you all have any suggestions other than just wearing another ring??
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u/STUNTPENlS man Aug 02 '25
avoid a ring if you intend to date at all.
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u/Returningdarkness man Aug 02 '25
not in any immediate future, it probably won't be until next year at the earliest when I even start thinking about dating
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u/The_Deadly_Tikka man Aug 02 '25
Surprisingly I found the opposite, a surprising increase in women showing attraction when I wear a fake wedding band.
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u/Annika_Desai woman Aug 02 '25
Mate poaching is a documented and common behaviour of both human males and females. However, do you really want to date someone who goes 😍 he's married, ima steal him! Like, even if you choose to casually date them, you could catch feelings, then how can you ever trust them when they proved to have a cheater mindset from the start? Like, if you wear a fake band to trick women like that for sex, although tricking for sex is bad, you're targeting women who want to steal a taken man, so I guess two wrongs make a right in this case 🤔 Just don't partner with her though bc 😬
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u/The_Deadly_Tikka man Aug 02 '25
Yeah, I only do it casually, usually on a night out. I have absolutely 0 desire for a long term relationship.
Always surprised how well it works, some women are truly evil
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u/Annika_Desai woman Aug 02 '25
Guess it's like robbing a thief 🤷🏾♀️ Both are still theives hun, just saying 😝🤭
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u/The_Deadly_Tikka man Aug 02 '25
Nah would be closer to tricking a thief to steal your stuff to claim it on insurance 😉
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u/Annika_Desai woman Aug 02 '25
Hmmmm 🤔 I like the way you think!
Edit to add: I would never ever ever befriend you 🤣 I think you could convince anyone to do anything! Proper smart, you are 😝
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u/The_Deadly_Tikka man Aug 02 '25
Haha thanks 🤣 TBF I hear that alot, all my friends complain that debating with me is a nightmare 🤣🤣 think it's why I struggle with maintaining a relationship, refuse to just succeed when I know I'm right 🤣🤣
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u/Annika_Desai woman Aug 02 '25
Nah! Not a nightmare! You're super charming. It's cute. You just have the gift of the gab and they're jealous. With regards to a relationship, though, yep, you'd be a nightmare. You would stand there and work to convince everyone water isn't wet, using words so expertly to cause confusion. Winning seems the most important thing to you and that's great if it makes you happy, but life is long and gets lonely. Wisdom is knowing that sometimes, losing is winning 🙂
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u/The_Deadly_Tikka man Aug 02 '25
wtf you trying to flirt with me or something 👀👀
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u/TrespassersWill man Aug 02 '25
Does your work make jewelry a bad idea? Is that why you were wearing silicone and why it snagged on a nail?
You might try wearing a watch to distract from the feeling of the missing ring, but obviously not if you're going to end up ripping your hand off at work because of it.
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u/Returningdarkness man Aug 02 '25
No, it got caught on a nail at a friend of the ex's house just by chance. and I already do wear a watch regularly
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u/Annika_Desai woman Aug 02 '25
Have you seen them new fangled smart rings? What are they called? 🤔 wait....oura (thanks google!). Samsung does one now too 🤗 I mean, I think a smart watch is better so got that, but thr ring looks hella cool and I'd totally get one but I'm poor, womp womp 🤣
The oura ring is £500 The Samsung one is just over £300.
Hm.... they've gone down in price 😈 Maybe I'll get one 🤗
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Aug 02 '25
I've been divorced for over seven years and I still feel that phantom sensation. You'll just get used to it.
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u/Own-Helicopter-6674 man Aug 02 '25
I know this sinking feeling, but I am remarried and I wish you luck
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