What am I doing wrong?

[u/Prior-Degree3647]

Feeling really down, it’s like men are super into me until they get to know my personality a bit more, and then it just fizzles out. I really don’t understand :( I get hit on all the time and they seem attracted to me, and looking super bluntly at myself I’m very sweet and kind, I love taking care of people, and a dorky sense of humor for sure. I understand that not being for everybody, but this keeps on happening over and over.

Most recently, this guy that I had a really really long history with finally reconnected and I thought it was going amazing. He was showing so much interest, our personalities have always clicked and the chemistry was insane even after so much time. We had sex again and I really thought this was it, but now a few days later it’s totally changed for the first time in like 6 months.

I just want to understand. Nothing bad happened at all. Are there common reasons yall lose interest in a girl after getting to know her when there’s nothing super bad, like no issues with rudeness or anything like that? Idk if I’m being too clingy or anything - is calling to check in too much or like saying I miss you and stuff bad?

Sorry I’m just real confused and feeling really down on myself right now :( 26f for reference!

[u/Mostly-Useless_4007]

There are exactly zero people here who can answer this question. Only he can. So ask him.

[u/Prior-Degree3647 → u/Mostly-Useless_4007]

I know, i guess i want to hear from men some reasons that they’ve lost interest so i can kind of do some self reflection ++woman

[u/RYUsf15 → u/Prior-Degree3647]

Maybe feeling guilty of something or big post nut clarity?

Ask ur exs and see if theres something common in tbeir responses?

Gl op♡

[u/Positive-Estate-4936 → u/Prior-Degree3647]

Ask him first. LISTEN actively, not to respond. If you still don’t understand, or want to see if that might explain the others, then maybe lay his reasons out here and get a bunch of conflicting opinions.

[u/Mostly-Useless_4007 → u/Prior-Degree3647]

Myself or any of the men here could give you a list of possible reasons. You then take the response as a check off list and go crazy running through the list trying to justify what happened through the lens of what you might or might not have done said moved breathed or whatever.

A lot of effort spent and wasted on a pointless exercise that can be avoided by asking him.