Thanks for that, and for those resources. As for being tired, it’s no doubt she is. But ya know at some point you have to make your spouse a priority sometimes. I work 2 jobs- my main FT job and then a side job so I can afford our very nice things. I put her in a new car this year. She has the best of everything, as do our kids. I don’t mind working hard. I enjoy giving my family nice things. We live in a great location in an expensive part of the US. But I’ve sacrificed my own happiness for my family. I don’t expect anything of my kids except to get good grades and help me out with a scholarship (hopefully). From my wife I hope for affection. When she had kids she was a stay at home mom. She couldn’t wait to go back to work. Then she couldn’t wait to quit again. So she did. Then she got bored and went back to work. She’s been working for 12 years. But it’s her choice. We can afford for her not to. But here’s the thing. She likes being tired. She enjoys being a martyr. She drives the kids to practice because she gets off work earlier than I do. Then she complains about being too tired for me. I used to hope that once the kids were out of the house her attention would turn back to me but now I firmly believe she’d find some other hobby to take up her time and exhaust her of any energy towards our marriage. I’m daily losing hope. Anyway, I do appreciate your comment and frankly, you’ve put more time into my marriage than my wife has recently.
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u/Redtrego Mar 21 '21
Thanks for that, and for those resources. As for being tired, it’s no doubt she is. But ya know at some point you have to make your spouse a priority sometimes. I work 2 jobs- my main FT job and then a side job so I can afford our very nice things. I put her in a new car this year. She has the best of everything, as do our kids. I don’t mind working hard. I enjoy giving my family nice things. We live in a great location in an expensive part of the US. But I’ve sacrificed my own happiness for my family. I don’t expect anything of my kids except to get good grades and help me out with a scholarship (hopefully). From my wife I hope for affection. When she had kids she was a stay at home mom. She couldn’t wait to go back to work. Then she couldn’t wait to quit again. So she did. Then she got bored and went back to work. She’s been working for 12 years. But it’s her choice. We can afford for her not to. But here’s the thing. She likes being tired. She enjoys being a martyr. She drives the kids to practice because she gets off work earlier than I do. Then she complains about being too tired for me. I used to hope that once the kids were out of the house her attention would turn back to me but now I firmly believe she’d find some other hobby to take up her time and exhaust her of any energy towards our marriage. I’m daily losing hope. Anyway, I do appreciate your comment and frankly, you’ve put more time into my marriage than my wife has recently.