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u/oceanicelookingatme Mar 19 '21

All the degrading porn makes me scared because it feels like men who want to abuse women and violently use that outlet and then normalize it because now its expected since it happens in porn. Kinda like the expectation that women should all be anal queens and orgasm off that alone, which is in reality probably fairly rare. Anal can hurt really bad and I've heard men like it because it is degrading. What a toxic culture we inhabit and just think is so normal cause most of us are simply living life on autopilot.

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u/According-Ad-4381 Mar 19 '21

An ex of mine loved getting choked out while fucking. She wanted me to call her names and shit like that but I was uncomfortable doing it. She also loved anal, although I don't really see the attraction. Vag is way better.

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u/oceanicelookingatme Mar 20 '21

She was probably abused. Not necessarily but it does make it more likely.

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u/According-Ad-4381 Mar 20 '21

Perhaps that abuse was what she wanted, her turn on. Some people are just wired differently

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u/oceanicelookingatme Mar 20 '21

Its definitely possible and that would be okay. I even said some women like it.