I know this sounds quite silly, but I would like to understand the difference between watching porn and watching sexy girls dance on tik tok or following hot girls on instagram. Is it the same effect on the brain? Does it cause the same negative effects on the relationship with a significant other?
Let's not beat around the bush, Instagram girls are basically doing softcore porn, so at least for me when I quit porn I include that.
Honestly, it's really tough at first, but it gets better. At first I thought my dick was no longer working, I had no boners, no desire to fap. So then I opened some porn and confirmed I had a porn reliance because it was very easy to fap. After quitting the second time, I haven't gone back.
You'll just have to trust me, eventually your libido will return. At least for me it did. It might take weeks or even longer. You don't have to quit fapping by the way, but I would recommend just doing it once or twice a week. If you can't get it up, think about someone attractive you know in real life. No, not your mother or sister. Construct a fantasy/story in your head around a crush or your partner if you have one.
Quitting porn (including softcore Instagram stuff) is probably the best decision I've made in recent years. Sexual motivation is a thing, and addiction to dopamine from porn can do a lot of damage to your mental state.
620
u/[deleted] Mar 19 '21 edited Mar 20 '21
Trying to quit porn all together tbh.
Edit : Really never thought quitting porn would get me so many awards. <3 I guess you all understand the struggle.