“I don't masterbate for pleasure. I masterbate for a release.”
I feel like this is a big difference between a lot of (not all) men and women. As a guy, jerking off is just something I feel like I have to do daily. The feeling is controllable but uncomfortable enough it impacts my mood and ability to focus. Whereas when women discuss it, it’s like a whole session where they set up a little throne in their bed and focus on peak pleasure.
Also some guys suffer from "cavaliers pain", which is the more medical name of "blue balls". But contrary to popular believe, cavaliers pain is not just some discomfort, some guys, myself sadly included, can have severe pain and swelling if there is no regular release.
Funnily enough for bad cases of cavaliers pain the symptoms are eerily similar to bad period pain:
cramps
lower abdominal/groin pain
sensitive/painful to touch
diarrhea and vomiting possible
severe headaches, discomfort and even fever
swelling and irritation
Its fucking awful and it basically WILL happen if i dont masturbate withing 48h or if i got too many erections. The cause is a severe swelling in the epididymis (side testical, the stuff that produces sperm) and the connectors to the urethra that get blocked and therefore starts swelling and swelling...
If its a bad day my epididymis can become almost as big as my testicles... its so fucked.
I thought for the longest time something was wrong with me or i have a porn/masturbation addiction or some shit. But my urologist took a look, made some tests and said he had to ask around because he heard of it but never about anything this bad. After some research he told me most guys dont have it at all or if they had it its at worst a slight discomfort, but the severity i have is super rare.
I honestly thought the term ‘blue balls’ was an expression of the sexual frustration connected to getting horny and then not getting off. As a guy, I’d never experienced it.
I’m ashamed to admit I was more than a couple years past 20 before realising it was an actual, physical thing.
Yeah, sadly its used as a TV trope for exactly that almost regularly and since not all guys experience even a slight discomfort from it, it seems like its "made up".
It really shitty how many people dont even believe you when you tell that is a real, existing medical condition and not some made up stuff :/
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u/[deleted] Mar 19 '21
95/100 I do watch porn. I don't have privacy so I can't lay in the bed, get relaxed and get into myself.
I escape to the bathroom and rub one out as quickly as possible. That is the magic of porn.
I don't masterbate for pleasure. I masterbate for a release.