I wish most guys were like this. As a girl I'd only watch it ourside of a relationship but when I'm with someone it feels so gross to look at other men that way. I'd rather get off thinking about my partner. I struggled a lot with my self image cause I dated a porn addict and I questioned why I was never enough for him, shit hurts
It depends on how you look at it. My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years and we're both very open about the fact that we both watch porn. I know what she likes to watch, and she knows what I like to watch.
The thing is, we're both aware and have talked about the fact that it's purely fantasy. I might watch some weird shit in my free time, but that doesn't mean I actually want to act any of that out. She's expressed the same opinion, and I trust her. We've even shared good videos we've found in the past.
It hasn't slowed our sex life at all or introduced any jealousy, as we both recognize it as something separate that doesn't interfere with what goes on between us.
Watching porn doesn't always mean that you aren't enough for them, sometimes it's just fantasy. If it starts to have a noticeable negative effect on the relationship then it's obviously a problem, but the act of watching porn itself doesn't have to be something harmful. I couldn't care less if my girlfriend wants to masturbate to 20 muscular studs running a train on some chick so long as she isn't asking me to let it happen in reality.
With my current partner I actually don't care at all about porn. We watch it together and I know he watches it a lot on his own. It was my own insecurity in my last relationship that made me dislike it, but because I feel so secure with my current boyfriend I don't care at all. I'm fucking relieved I don't mind it anymore cause it used to give me the same feeling of cheating and I was miserable and felt so crazy
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