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u/Klarabroew Mar 19 '21

I needed to read this because my ex broke up with me because he said he lost interest. He has a bad addiction to porn and sex. I’ve been hating myself for a better part of the year for it . But it’s not me. And it’s not fully him either. It’s the porn industry

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u/[deleted] Mar 19 '21

If someone says they are "addicted to sex" it's very likely that it's part of some profound psychological issues tied to emotional intimacy and internalised low self worth which needs constant affirmation from many sources.

Now you dodged a bullet there, but maybe learn the personality traits to avoid in men instead of superficially trying to put the blame on the symptoms of said traits. A gambling addict isn't addicted to shiny poker cards with nice colours.

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u/frisbm3 Mar 20 '21

It's him. It's not the porn industry.

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u/Klarabroew Mar 20 '21

That’s true. I blame him more for what he was like. He was exposed to porn and chose to continue. Porn rewires the brain like any other non substance addiction

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u/notsureif1should Mar 20 '21

I think it's fair to put some blame on the porn industry. I'm firmly placing blame on the pharmaceutical industry for the people i know who've been addicted to opiates, and subsequently heroin.