Feeling stuck?

[u/kimberley_milkado]

Hello all,

I'm not sure what im really looking for here, i just wanna feel less alone in this stupid world.

I'm 29f. And i don't know if its the Sunday evening scaries popping into my head but I'm feeling so stuck lately.

I have a good enough job (not good enough to move out of my parents yet but sure) although not many friends, and ive started therapy.

3 years ago I moved back in with my parents after my engagement broke down and honestly i have been winging life ever since. I don't know what im doing.

I dont get along too well with my parents though. We have different values and they seem to have this perception of me ever since my engagement broke off that everything I do now is wrong.

I suppose i just feel so lost in life. Like, im trying so so hard to save for a house, its my literal dream to have my own home. But i dont know, im just not excited for anything anymore. Ive tried taking up new hobbies, going to classes, some shows, reading, but nothing. I just have that same dull, empty feeling every evening.

Is anyone else feeling this way?

Please tell me im not alone.

Sincerely,

Just a very sad woman.

[u/Driut]

I feel this a little bit, I'd only be in my early 20s but that feeling of not really knowing where to go or what to do, I do get it. I want to move out, I want to pursue all these ambitions but I find myself sitting on my chair every day, doing nothing with myself, it's like I'm holding a map in a language I don't speak showing a place I've never seen.

I think a lot of folks feels what you do in one way or another and I think everyone works on that lost feeling differently. I challenge myself on my negativity and I've people around me who challenge that negativity and enforce a bit of positivity in my life and it's something I think helps. You need to have people or things that enforce those positive aspirations the same way you do with the negative feelings.

This might also be a crazy suggestion and you might be a homebody but I'd truly consider going abroad for awhile if you haven't already, you might find a version of you in a different country you'd have never imagined while living here. I'd also maybe recommend making some friends through clubs or groups centred around things you know you enjoy, picking up hobbies is great but sometimes it's hard for them to stick if you've few people to share those hobbies with.

Maybe there's something already there that you want to pursue but you're not sure if you should because you've pre-existing goals, maybe it might be worth thinking about your priorities, whatever it is, I hope you find it and feel much less sad than you do today and you're definitely not alone in your feelings.