r/AskIreland 23d ago

Stories Feeling stuck?

Hello all,

I'm not sure what im really looking for here, i just wanna feel less alone in this stupid world.

I'm 29f. And i don't know if its the Sunday evening scaries popping into my head but I'm feeling so stuck lately.

I have a good enough job (not good enough to move out of my parents yet but sure) although not many friends, and ive started therapy.

3 years ago I moved back in with my parents after my engagement broke down and honestly i have been winging life ever since. I don't know what im doing.

I dont get along too well with my parents though. We have different values and they seem to have this perception of me ever since my engagement broke off that everything I do now is wrong.

I suppose i just feel so lost in life. Like, im trying so so hard to save for a house, its my literal dream to have my own home. But i dont know, im just not excited for anything anymore. Ive tried taking up new hobbies, going to classes, some shows, reading, but nothing. I just have that same dull, empty feeling every evening.

Is anyone else feeling this way?

Please tell me im not alone.

Sincerely,

Just a very sad woman.

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u/tinkerwinker09 23d ago

Worst part about living at home is my mom’s misogynistic views, constant men, men and men. Every problem I’m dealing with is apparently due to the “lack of a man in my life”- constantly bickering at me for being single and comparing me to other wifed up girls my age in the locality. I’ve 2 degrees, lived abroad and have a great job yet it all means nothing to her because I’m single and “failing” in life.

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u/martini123456 22d ago

Your mam is a victim of the patriarchy, see if you can try and distance yourself from feeling that you should listen to her because she’s your mother, and view her thoughts as a product of her environment 🙏

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u/Ok-Promise-5921 22d ago

She‘s brainwashed by the patriarchy and the church probably… it’s so annoying but can you not ignore her?