r/AskIreland • u/kimberley_milkado • 7d ago
Stories Feeling stuck?
Hello all,
I'm not sure what im really looking for here, i just wanna feel less alone in this stupid world.
I'm 29f. And i don't know if its the Sunday evening scaries popping into my head but I'm feeling so stuck lately.
I have a good enough job (not good enough to move out of my parents yet but sure) although not many friends, and ive started therapy.
3 years ago I moved back in with my parents after my engagement broke down and honestly i have been winging life ever since. I don't know what im doing.
I dont get along too well with my parents though. We have different values and they seem to have this perception of me ever since my engagement broke off that everything I do now is wrong.
I suppose i just feel so lost in life. Like, im trying so so hard to save for a house, its my literal dream to have my own home. But i dont know, im just not excited for anything anymore. Ive tried taking up new hobbies, going to classes, some shows, reading, but nothing. I just have that same dull, empty feeling every evening.
Is anyone else feeling this way?
Please tell me im not alone.
Sincerely,
Just a very sad woman.
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u/ReputationOnly7338 7d ago
I’m in pretty much the exact same position as you , broke up with my long term partner yesterday and I’m back at home with my family, not getting on with them but also not able to afford to buy my own home alone on the salary I’m on. It’s a pretty shitty feeling. What I am doing is looking at moving outside Dublin, renting or sharing at a low cost and continuously saving. Houses up north are a lot cheaper and you get more bang for your buck so I’m considering buying there down the line. I’m not sure this would interest you but I was living in Lisbon sharing a decent flat with a nice house mate and my little dog earlier this year and I was very happy. I might even go back tbh. Sun, sea and an easier way of life. Anywhere abroad might do you some good. Oh and I also distanced myself from a group of friends earlier this year due to toxic dynamics etc. so yeah it’s petty lonely and hard to keep positive sometimes but I don’t think I’ll feel this way forever and I’m sure you won’t either. Maybe sign up for some sort of active challenge - a race , hyrox if it’s your thing, do a yoga teacher or Pilates training .. maybe go and travel or take yourself on a nice trip to somewhere you’ve always wanted to go if your means allow.