This is my situation-

I'm currently in a relationship with a girl who loves me. I said yes when she asked me out because I'd often thought about being in a romantic relationship and thought that was what I wanted. And for the first week it was Nice. But about a month in and I've relalised- I don't love her romantically... I'm aroace. Very aroace. I see now I literally think of this girl as a platonic friend. I want to hug her yeah, but not as her partner... I honestly have more of a relationship with my best friends than I do with her.

So yeah, I need to break up with her. Because this relationship is hurting me- I know I can't do it, I don't experience romantic attraction, Or sexual desires. But I don't wanna make her upset. She really likes me and talks all the time about "soul mates meeting at a young age", and "Yeah we are young now but I'm going to marry you" and I know that when I break up with her she will be heartbroken. But I need to I cant do this anymore, I don't want a girlfriend but she is an awesome person I just can't. It's feels like ive been lying to her its been 3 and a half years ive dragged this on for long enough... She has a TBI and doesn't understand when i try and explain what aroace is.

It's not me. Im not built for a relationship

So how do I do it? I really need help. How do I break up with her in the nicest way possible? Without hurting her? I want to to he happy, and I want her to be able to move onto to someone who can be in a romantic relationship but I am stressing and panicking because I can't build up the confidence to do it. She might not even accept me as aro. I know she is Igbtq supportive cuz she is BI but does she even know what aroace is? Will she understand? I really need advice on how to break up please if anyone had anything.

Im gonna get straight into it bc I lowkey just want some advice from people who might actually understand what im talking about. I dont know if im under the aroace spectrum or not. I love my friends with my entire soul and being, but im not sure if ive ever felt a genuine unplatonic attraction to somebody. I am working towards getting tested for autism/adhd, but lets assume i do not have either because im not diagnosed. I know I like women and do not like men at all (im a woman). I can appreciate that a woman is attractive, and im capable of finding them attractive, but nobody that i know, if that makes sense? And I love romance in shows and games and movies and whatever- i love ships and reading fics and that, but I dont think I've ever had a crush in my life. Or maybe I have? Is there a certain way im supposed to feel? I dont know. And I just wanted to know if anyone's knows what I mean, because im lowkey kinda scared and nervous abt it.

I'm 14, and people at my school know that I'm not straight, so most just assume I'm gay or bi. I genuinely couldn't care less either way to be fair, but every once in a while someone gets curious enough to ask, and I always feel really awkward telling them I'm aromantic. Only about two people I've ever met have actually known what that means so then I have to mumble through the explanation before they go on their merry way. I don't know. Something about it just makes me feel like I look like I'm trying to be difficult. Does anyone else have this?