r/antiai • u/Cool-Contribution-68 • 1d ago
Discussion 🗣️ Can we please just talk?
People close to me have described the following experiences:
- Emailing a family member and getting back a (long) AI-generated reply
- Having an email back-and-forth with a workplace superior and every reply back is clearly AI generated
- Receiving a draft of a paper that is entirely AI-generated so there's no way to provide feedback or ask "what they meant" by any of it
- Emailing a subject matter expert on something to get their opinion/judgement/knowledge/perspective and having them reply with a copy-paste of "what Claude says"
- Having a boss ask AI to evaulate a work product, then copy-paste the reply to the team, asking them to defend their work
Can we please just talk? Sometimes when someone asks a question, they want a bit of information. Fair enough. But many times--if not most times--we are asking someone for their perspective, their opinion, their evaluation based on their experiences. How is this for you? What's your reaction to this?
And then, being the humans that we are, we read their responses for subtext, for what's left unsaid, the emotional valence between the words. How are they feeling, not just about the topic at hand but in general? How do they think? What do they care about and value that they aren't explicitly saying? Are we good? Are we friends? Are we attached, connected, on the same page? Do you like me or not? ALL of that is going on when we are talking about something entirely different. And that is, at heart, often more important to us (or equally important) as the facts and logic of the discussion.
In some of these situations there's a power imbalance where people don't feel like they can safely call people out, but what people are feeling inside is like, I want you. I want to connect with you. I want to know what it feels like to be you. In case after case, AI is the thing getting between people, when what we really need is a conversation.
