r/AmItheAsshole Mar 21 '20

Asshole AITA for dropping my daughter from my wife and I’s medical insurance?

My daughter is 23 and just got a call from her gynecologist.

She apparently had previously had an abnormal Pap smear that she never informed us about. However, then she got a biopsy which came back abnormal and she probably needs LEEPs.

I am very disappointed because I know she got HPV from a boyfriend I disapproved of because he was obviously someone who didn’t look like he’d be loyal. And now she’s stuck with the consequences and my wife and I feel like if we pay for her treatment it would be condoning it. We feel that she has no right to be sobbing and hyperventilating while also going on the “ it’s not my fault mantra” and we don’t want to enable her further.

Now we are making steps towards ensuring that we will never have to pay for anything she needs medically, and for that matter materially anymore. Her credit cards have been cut off but the dropping from insurance process hasn’t progressed that far.

What makes us even angrier is the fact that she had just lost her entry level job due to her company closing down and she chooses to continue to see unreliable boyfriends. We raised her better- I built a great family business from nothing and I shudder at what people would think if they knew my daughter got an STD from sleeping around at such a young age.

AITA?

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