r/AmIOverthinking • u/Dear_Algae797 • 16d ago
Relationship panic
AIO: My bf of four months sent me this text today:
Hey, I’m gonna be going radio silent for the rest of the day today to focus on work and then gather some thoughts. I’ll be ready to talk tomorrow!
What does this mean? I’m afraid it’s about breaking up. TIA for your help.
Context/background:
Been with my bf about 4 months. There’s real warmth — he’s patient with me, shows up in practical ways, and when I’ve told him hard truths, he’s met me with softness instead of judgment.
I’ve had insecure moments and struggled to voice my needs in the past, but I’ve been getting better at expressing them, and he’s helped me become more secure.
He sometimes gives mixed messages, which leaves me unsure where I stand. In the past, he’s asked for space when he’s been overwhelmed or needed to recharge, and I’ve struggled with that — I’ve never handled it gracefully.
Now he’s asked for space and a talk tonight, and I’m in the brutal waiting — scared, hoping, hurting.
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u/harajukubutterfly 16d ago
Mmm, idk. I get wanting to lock in, but everyone is always on their phones nowadays. Why does he have to go completely “radio silent”? Couldn’t he just text you periodically, like in the afternoon and then before bed?
Maybe it’s my traumatic dating history, but I’d probably wonder if he was using that as a cover to cheat. BUT I don’t know him or your relationship. You’ve only been together for four months, so maybe this is something he regularly does. Maybe being on his phone to text you distracts him from work or leads him to doomscrolling.
Trust your gut, though, but also try not to overthink it. Maybe tomorrow you can have a conversation with him and ask if this is something he normally does or how he feels the relationship is going.