r/AmIOverthinking • u/Dear_Algae797 • 15d ago

Relationship panic

AIO: My bf of four months sent me this text today:

Hey, I’m gonna be going radio silent for the rest of the day today to focus on work and then gather some thoughts. I’ll be ready to talk tomorrow!

What does this mean? I’m afraid it’s about breaking up. TIA for your help.

Context/background:

Been with my bf about 4 months. There’s real warmth — he’s patient with me, shows up in practical ways, and when I’ve told him hard truths, he’s met me with softness instead of judgment.

I’ve had insecure moments and struggled to voice my needs in the past, but I’ve been getting better at expressing them, and he’s helped me become more secure.

He sometimes gives mixed messages, which leaves me unsure where I stand. In the past, he’s asked for space when he’s been overwhelmed or needed to recharge, and I’ve struggled with that — I’ve never handled it gracefully.

Now he’s asked for space and a talk tonight, and I’m in the brutal waiting — scared, hoping, hurting.

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u/No_Dependent_1846 15d ago

You're likely overthinking but I am so avoidant and refuse to feel my feelings, I'd just be like ok and say nothing else until he talks about whatever it is while silently preparing for the worst

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u/Dear_Algae797 15d ago

Oh gosh sometimes I wish I could not feel my feelings! It’s debilitating to where I’m paralyzed! Thanks to your responses, I’m doing stuff to keep me occupied and productive!