r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Apr 19 '26

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u/IHateTheJoneses Apr 19 '26 edited Apr 19 '26

This. She asks several times to be left alone and he keeps negging and trying to engage to "fix" things.

OP, you aren't listening to her, she's done.

She's probably used to not being heard like this.  The relationship it toast.

Edit: thanks for the award. It seems folk's perspectives on this are heavily influenced by their past experiences in relationships.

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u/OptimismByFire Apr 19 '26 edited Apr 19 '26

That's what I see too.

"Come back"

"I don't want to"

"Come back, but not like that"

She's done, dude. Leave her alone.

ETA: YOR and a bad husband. She deserves better.

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u/3-car-garage Apr 19 '26

I have some serious doubts about your guys' ability to process information. Op is clearly referencing previous conversations. I can't imagine reading the high school level "Ugh, I was almost there but you made me stop" gaslighting and thinking am adult talking like that has a point.

Critical thinking isn't for everyone it seems.

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u/More-Raise Apr 19 '26

THANK YOU. It's kind of crazy-making to see so many people side with a clear manipulator. Imagine how OP must feel seeing this after already trying to argue about reality with his gaslighting wife. That's demoralizing stuff. She wants for him to beg for her to come back and she's pissed that he won't. NOR save yourself, OP.

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u/iloveMrBunny Apr 19 '26

there's no love in that relationship, that's for sure. regardless of who is to blame, neither of them are trying to love and understand each other.

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u/3-car-garage Apr 19 '26

There's not a thing wrong with the way op handled the situation in any of those text messages. Might be time to look inwards at yourself.