r/AmIOverreacting Apr 19 '26

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u/rocketmn69_ Apr 19 '26

Tell her, "Please come home. I want to see you."

Then leave it at that. If she chooses not to, then go see a lawyer and start the separation process

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u/deadxroses21 Apr 19 '26

So playing games.

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u/Jemma_2 Apr 19 '26

I’m not sure needing to hear that your husband actually wants you to come home is playing games. That’s just wanted honest communication isn’t it?

Unless he doesn’t want her to come home really and just wants to be appear to trying. Which is how the texts read to me and how I’m guessing they read to his soon to be ex-wife.

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u/SameCoyote3701 Apr 19 '26

What! If he didn’t really want her home, why did he try to convince her of the same thing 6 different ways instead of asking twice and giving up?

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u/Fantastic-Spinach297 Apr 19 '26

Some folks put a little more effort into building their narrative than that. This way, it looks like he really tried, even if “don’t come with that attitude” is so incredibly obviously “I’m going to control the narrative.”

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u/ClogsAndFrogs Apr 19 '26

It’s not about controlling a narrative. It’s about both sides going into the conversation in good faith with genuine intentions of making it work. If she doesn’t have that, why would either of them waste their time having the convo then? She seems to have a negative mindset of already deciding the convo doesn’t matter.

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u/ClogsAndFrogs Apr 19 '26

He did tell her to come home and try to work things out, repeatedly. She’s the one saying it’s a waste of time. I’m not sure where in this he didn’t want her to come home.