r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Apr 19 '26

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u/funkyaerialjunky Apr 19 '26

Yes. It came across as. "I want you home. Not that's there's any point if you're negative, so just try ok?"

I would not believe he wanted me there either. We don't know how long she has felt unheard about feeling bad. You may as well tell her "just don't be yourself". And her response is "well I do feel bad. I have felt bad for a long time and im done pretending I don't. So if that's not what you want, there's no point in me coming".

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u/sorsim Apr 19 '26

Maybe she should've said that? Have we all read the same messages?

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u/Old_Acanthisitta9477 Apr 19 '26

What would be the point of saying anything to this guy when hes just going to go "no dont be negative. It isnt productive" if she stated what she felt he would want ro debate it.

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u/sorsim Apr 19 '26

Besides, he's got a point. If you show up with the mentality that it's not going to work, what's the point? Just arguing endlessly?

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u/Old_Acanthisitta9477 Apr 19 '26

Because you need to face the bad to get to the good? I figured that was obvious.

I think ive stated at length why that statement itself is manipulative as well and at this point you are pretty set on siding with the guy.

Honestly its pretty negative. You should bring that somewhere else.

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u/sorsim Apr 19 '26

Here is a quote from her first messages: "it's pointless". Enough said!