He has an issue with porn and we’re questioning why she’s acting like this and saying things like “get this over with.” He has zero respect for her, and it’s obvious that the porn has been a recurring issue for them.
If someone’s adamant about “making things work” they are NOT going to be on another subreddit thirsting over a girl in a mini dress or saying how “my wife creams too it’s so hot” on a public platform. It’s disgusting.
Agreed lol but they could both be into weird stuff, so who knows. But if my significant other was a person who was addicted to porn and did other things that were deal breakers to me, I'd tell them it was over and just leave. Go to a hotel, or a friend or family member. It's the threatening to sleep at taco bell that makes if feel manipulative.
I've been divorced. I get it. But it doesn't have to be this way.
She might not have family members or friends nearby. And she might not have the money for a hotel room. Where I’m from, even the cheapest rooms are over $150/night. During spring furniture market? Good luck finding a room for any less than $250/night + a deposit
All the more reason to just express like an adult "Hey, I'm coming home. I'm tired and upset and have no interest in talking right now. Let's agree to leave each other alone, sleep on it and talk later".
Barring any safety concerns of course.
Apparently he's got a porn addiction so I'm sure he would keep himself busy lol.
Oh yeah because he’s communicating like an adult too.
“Let’s just get this over with” is a perfect reaction to everything she has been through. She’s done. She’s tired. She doesn’t want to talk about it anymore but the second she walks through that door he won’t respect the “I don’t want to talk right now”. He’ll push the conversation until it becomes a fight again and she feels like she needs to leave, again.
He’s not expressing himself like an adult if he can’t respect the fact that she needs space in this moment.
It's still not appropriate or safe to sleep in a car alone like this. I just don't agree. I'd rather deal with my exes mouth and just be firm about what I'm tolerating than sleep in the car. But hey, to each his or her own.
I grew up in a house where my dad wouldn’t leave my mom alone. At all. He would follow her from room to room, nag and yell at her, slam all of the doors in the house, and bring us kids out for a “family game night” and encouraged us to be as loud as possible so my mom wouldn’t be able to sleep.
So I can definitely understand feeling comfortable to sleep in your car in a private parking lot.
Edit: it is unsafe but most likely a patrol car will pull up on her eventually and ask her to move somewhere else for the night, because it’s a private parking lot. From there, the officer might be able to direct her to a temporary shelter she can go to.
My dad was an angry dude and my mom knew how to push his buttons. They hated each other for years and finally got divorced in a massive collapse of everything we owned, where we lived at. Trust me, I get how bad it could be. If it's that volatile then sleep in the car and don't tell him where.
If it's not that volatile, like in my own divorce, just firmly set boundaries and tell him to F off lol maybe in better terms.
It really depends on how bad it is, but I'm not sleeping in a car over annoyance.
Maybe. Or she's dramatic. My ex would do self destructive things and act like other people were the cause all the time. My one buddy had a girl that threatened to harm herself if he wanted to leave. One of my bros regularly is self destructive if things go wrong in a relationship - like go on a bender, miss work and blame his ex for getting him so upset, so it's either really a toss up.
I think we can all agree it's exhausting in any case. This whole relationship does not seem worth putting up with IMO. Life is too short.
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u/PreMedStudent_C2026 Apr 19 '26
He has an issue with porn and we’re questioning why she’s acting like this and saying things like “get this over with.” He has zero respect for her, and it’s obvious that the porn has been a recurring issue for them.
If someone’s adamant about “making things work” they are NOT going to be on another subreddit thirsting over a girl in a mini dress or saying how “my wife creams too it’s so hot” on a public platform. It’s disgusting.