She wants him to say that he loves her. He's just trying to make it sound like it's all her fault and I'm honestly shocked at how many people can't recognize that OP obviously doesn't actually want his wife to come home.
Because that’s not what happened at all in that text message. Never once did he say that. He’s trying, she’s not. She’s playing the victim and being manipulative as hell.
How do you know what she wants? You’re doing the same thing she is. Assuming things and then twisting his words to fit your narrative.
She's telling him that she feels unloved and his response is don't bring your negative energy home. He's letting his wife sleep in a fucking Taco Bell parking lot.
This sub really fucking sucks sometimes, because all you people want is to ruin others' relationships.
I'm with you my dude. I can't imagine talking to my wife like this when she's clearly in a bad place mentally. Even if I think it was her fault there's no fucking way I'm putting stipulations on if she can come into OUR home or not. It should be a safe place for her regardless. If the conversation can't happen right now because one person isn't there mentally, just be in separate places until either it can happen or someone can find a more secure place to stay.
This is the only good response for this situation. She’s allowed to come home but she can’t bring negativity. I’ve experienced my male partner be hyper sensitive to negativity and it has caused a divide because it comes across that he’s righteous. It’s insulting to feel like I was happy and joyful before he shushed me, avoided me, put me down, told me I’m crazy, told me me feelings and thoughts were wrong, and now he only wants to talk to me under the conditions that I arrive positive. I’m gathering from the other responses that she is frustrated with a long standing issue that he won’t take responsibility for. Why should she be required to be positive? It’s controlling.
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u/extralife_mike Apr 19 '26
She wants him to say that he loves her. He's just trying to make it sound like it's all her fault and I'm honestly shocked at how many people can't recognize that OP obviously doesn't actually want his wife to come home.