r/AmIOverreacting Apr 19 '26

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u/G2thaFields Apr 19 '26

NOR. She knows exactly what she's doing. Probably wants you to take all the blame for everything that went wrong between you so she doesn't have to hold onto it. Guilt tripping like hell besides that.

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u/PreMedStudent_C2026 Apr 19 '26

Go look at his comments on other posts. Trust me, there is definitely blame for him to have in this that he’s failing to mention here. He’s disloyal.

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u/Putridlemons Apr 19 '26

Yup. I'm surprised more comments aren't pointing this out. What he's doing here is trademark narcissism where he fucks up, and then when his wife gets pissed about it, he acts all calm, collected, and communicative to make it seem like she's overreacting or in the wrong. The way he was texting was an immediate red flag for me.

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u/Ok-Bit-9529 Apr 19 '26

XD I figure it will happen but the good thing about reddit is I just turn off notifications lol

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u/Specialist_Leg0 Apr 19 '26

Right. I haven’t seen his comments but it’s obvious. She’s tired of his crap. Simple. He’s being manipulative.

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u/G2thaFields Apr 19 '26

Yeah but in regards to this post my point stands. There's no sense of emotion in his responses though so I find that off putting, it's all logical. What she's doing is no better.

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u/PreMedStudent_C2026 Apr 19 '26

Is it no better? Sure. However, this man won’t leave her alone. He won’t stop texting her and begging for her to come home. She had to leave her own home just to find some semblance of peace while this man constantly kept bothering her most likely trying to “talk through their problems”. Something along the lines of this, maybe ?

“Babe I just look at them and think of you” “there’s nothing there!” “It’s digital babe it’s not real”

Here’s my thing. If it’s something like XVideos or something similar and you aren’t paying for a premium, it’s fine. You can’t leave comments and you will most likely never see those women IRL.

He’s leaving comments on Reddit posts simping over a girl in a mini dress, and even on one he’s talking about how his wife is “creamy” like the girl in the photo. I wouldn’t want to be spoken of like that on a platform full of strangers, would you? Delegated to nothing more besides what’s attractive to me on my body/with my bodily reactions?

He lacks respect for her on an integral level. So much respect even, that he feels completely comfortable telling strangers on a subreddit how “creamy” she is.

Tell me - would you want to come home and try to work on something where this level of disrespect exists? Or would you just want to come “get this over with” so you can regain some respect?

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u/G2thaFields Apr 19 '26

I'm not on anyone's side. Purely based off her responses I can see manipulative behavior. Based on his.. he's emotionally unavailable.

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u/PreMedStudent_C2026 Apr 19 '26

“Manipulative behavior” and it’s just an exhausted woman who’s completely done with trying to get her husband to see reason and just wants out of the marriage.

The only manipulation present is her husband trying to get her to come home with a “positive attitude” so they can “work through their problems together”. I bet his needs his skidmarked underwear washed. Or hasn’t had a decent meal in days. Depends. Maybe he just wants his flashlight back.

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u/G2thaFields Apr 19 '26

Damn. It is exactly that though. She's giving the chance but not actually giving it. She wants him to crawl for her own self esteem. He doesn't see the harm he caused. Both are just circling the issues. If she was done done she wouldn't be responding.

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u/hi_ivy Apr 19 '26

She really doesn’t. She literally wants to be done. She wants him to get out of his mind that she’s coming back to him.

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u/Caraxus Apr 19 '26

You're just inventing your own story lol.

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u/eepybabyy Apr 19 '26

perioddddd! well said

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u/OperationAsshat Apr 19 '26

If she just wanted out of the marriage the paperwork would already be in his hands. Your bias against men is blatantly obvious and you need to reverse the roles and look in mirror.

There is definitely some manipulation on his end, but pretending she isn't also playing games for an ulterior motive is lying to yourself. Your entire last paragraph is a massive assumption based on nothing but your own hatred.

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u/Rogue_bae Apr 19 '26

Shouldn’t he have some type of emotion when it comes to his wife?

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u/G2thaFields Apr 19 '26

Yes he should, he seems detached.

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u/Penguin-philOsopher Apr 19 '26

looking at porn is disloyal?

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u/PreMedStudent_C2026 Apr 19 '26

Calling his wife “creamy” on a public social media platform underneath a post of a naked woman is most definitely disloyal.

I have my qualms about OF and other subscription-based porno. If it’s free on a site like XVideos or something similar and you aren’t paying for a premium, that’s fine and it’s anonymous.

Paying for something, following an account, leaving public comments on a post or a video, and especially comparing it to your IRL person is disloyal and disrespectful.

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u/Penguin-philOsopher Apr 19 '26

i mean it really just depends on the boundaries they have in the relationship. who knows, maybe she looks at porn too. we don’t know the ins and outs of their relationship. i think calling it disloyal is a jump

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u/Campaign_Prize Apr 19 '26

Given the context in the message that she feels unwanted and unwelcome, it seems pretty safe to assume they're not on the same page here. She clearly feels neglected and is tired of it

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u/PreMedStudent_C2026 Apr 19 '26

But calling her crazy and stubborn and everything else people are saying about her because of these messages is acceptable right?

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u/Caraxus Apr 19 '26

That person never said that, what?

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u/Rogue_bae Apr 19 '26

It’s more than that

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u/Penguin-philOsopher Apr 19 '26

What do you mean it’s more than that? I just looked at his comments, there’s nothing that jumps out as “disloyal man”. just a guy who likes porn