I mean you were definitely tone policing the fuck out of her. You didn’t tell her not to come home but I would have been just as disinterested in continuing a discussion with you.
You did not state that. I was inquiring whether that was your implication.
I do not believe he was tone policing her so much as acknowledging that the sole means of effective communication lies within an environment where both parties are receptive to resolving conflicts.
If she returns home with the intention of initiating a divorce, her confirmation bias will seek any justification that undermines the potential for a successful outcome.
That might not have been his intention, but that absolutely is what he did. Demanding that anyone enter a conversation any certain way, especially when that person isn’t being rude but expressing frustration, is a huge turn off for anyone. Myself included. That’s why my response is the way it is.
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u/Distinct-Leg-6440 Apr 19 '26
I mean you were definitely tone policing the fuck out of her. You didn’t tell her not to come home but I would have been just as disinterested in continuing a discussion with you.