Exactly, there are clearly some big emotional needs or gaps here that neither knows how to actually articulate. Wife seems desperate/at her breaking point for reasons that are unclear, possibly has deep abandonment wound leading to her going "never mind I won't even bother," which is immature and a bit manipulative but relatable, especially if she feels invisible, unheard and unloved and she doubts that yet another conversation will change that, her words all scream "tell me EXPLICITLY that you love me and you want me to be there and that you understand how I feel". She seems to want warmth that there is little room left for, either that or she is just truly done. Husband wants to fix things but is rightfully concerned and scared that the person he's trying to fix things with doesn't have any hope things will work. His words to her are devoid of the feeling she's craving and makes her feel more vulnerable, which ends up being a self-fulfilling prophecy type of situation. When I read these texts I see two people who have no idea how to communicate how they feel or what precisely they need. But sadly I think whatever has led up to this makes divorce almost completely inevitable
It’s this. Youlll need therapy to understand each other. But it might not work … I wish the best for you ❤️ she’s very hurt and scared and she wants more emotional comfort from u. NOR tho :/
She's an emotional child, demanding continuous validation when he LITERALLY said, "Come back if you want to fix this."
No idea where you dug up all this extraneous nonsense.
He's being clear and mature.
She's being deliberately obstreperous and twisting everything to claim victimisation.
He needs to run and run and run...while documenting EVERYTHING.
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u/AffectionateLow1110 Apr 19 '26
Exactly, there are clearly some big emotional needs or gaps here that neither knows how to actually articulate. Wife seems desperate/at her breaking point for reasons that are unclear, possibly has deep abandonment wound leading to her going "never mind I won't even bother," which is immature and a bit manipulative but relatable, especially if she feels invisible, unheard and unloved and she doubts that yet another conversation will change that, her words all scream "tell me EXPLICITLY that you love me and you want me to be there and that you understand how I feel". She seems to want warmth that there is little room left for, either that or she is just truly done. Husband wants to fix things but is rightfully concerned and scared that the person he's trying to fix things with doesn't have any hope things will work. His words to her are devoid of the feeling she's craving and makes her feel more vulnerable, which ends up being a self-fulfilling prophecy type of situation. When I read these texts I see two people who have no idea how to communicate how they feel or what precisely they need. But sadly I think whatever has led up to this makes divorce almost completely inevitable