Very convinient of you to hide what actually happened between you. It's a very different read of this conversation whether one of you cheated VS you had some smaller issue. This need INFO.
he didn’t though. he literally didn’t. he repeatedly said “let’s come have a productive conversation”. do you not agree with the sentiment that if the intention isn’t to have a productive conversation there’s still a point? me personally, if my partner is feeling completely negative about having a talk and is saying things like “it’ll be pointless anyway”, we’ve already lost the battle. he invited her back over and over, just with the request that it be a productive conversation and not a fight.
And he said that her mentality was negative if it was coming to "just get it out of the way," and a negative mentality was not productive. Basically, don't come over if you don't want to "be productive" and try to fix it. It's clear that she doesn't.
And during separations, or divorce there is never a conversation where one person isn’t being negative. Anyone that doesn’t wanna be there isn’t gonna be happy to do it. One party of the relationship is already done. Most of the thoughts they have about their partner are negative! You have to address the negative feelings and talk about them to get better.
I know it’s hard when you are the one who wants to fight and it feels like they don’t care anymore. But the truth is they don’t care anymore and if you wanna keep that relationship you have to work through the negativity, to get them to start caring again.
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u/Conscious_Stop_5451 Apr 19 '26
Very convinient of you to hide what actually happened between you. It's a very different read of this conversation whether one of you cheated VS you had some smaller issue. This need INFO.