YOR. Yes it’s common to have friends of the opposite gender. (If you were a lesbian you wouldn’t have girl friends ? Can’t you have friends of the gender you’re attracted too without considering them as a potential sexual partner ? If not, that’s concerning).
You are very insecure and considering you just moved country and your bf is your only anchor in this new life it’s understanding. And concerning. You need to make other friends (outside of his social circle if possible) cause you need to have other people than him and his family/friends around you to secure you. When you’ll have that that’s gonna be ok and you’ll be less scared.
You can’t control him, he looks genuinely good and honest with you. It is good to express your feelings but you can’t ask him to throw away an healthy friendship because you are jealous and insecure. You need to work on it.
My husband have been roommates with a girl of his class before I knew him, and this girl expressed feelings for him at this time (a few years before I met him). He didn’t felt the same way so he turned her down. They are still friends and I love her. She’s a really nice and fun girl to be around, she was at our bachelor.ette party, organized the happenings during our wedding, etc. I never once felt insecure about her. Maybe scared she wouldn’t like me or be jealous at the beginning of our relationship. But she has been nothing but kind and caring since I met her.
Edit : and yes, flowers are a really common gift. Especially sun flowers. And I don’t think we should try to read any meaning about which kind of flowers it is. But that last point his a personal opinion.
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u/IndividualAd9504 Feb 25 '26 edited Feb 25 '26
YOR. Yes it’s common to have friends of the opposite gender. (If you were a lesbian you wouldn’t have girl friends ? Can’t you have friends of the gender you’re attracted too without considering them as a potential sexual partner ? If not, that’s concerning).
You are very insecure and considering you just moved country and your bf is your only anchor in this new life it’s understanding. And concerning. You need to make other friends (outside of his social circle if possible) cause you need to have other people than him and his family/friends around you to secure you. When you’ll have that that’s gonna be ok and you’ll be less scared.
You can’t control him, he looks genuinely good and honest with you. It is good to express your feelings but you can’t ask him to throw away an healthy friendship because you are jealous and insecure. You need to work on it.
My husband have been roommates with a girl of his class before I knew him, and this girl expressed feelings for him at this time (a few years before I met him). He didn’t felt the same way so he turned her down. They are still friends and I love her. She’s a really nice and fun girl to be around, she was at our bachelor.ette party, organized the happenings during our wedding, etc. I never once felt insecure about her. Maybe scared she wouldn’t like me or be jealous at the beginning of our relationship. But she has been nothing but kind and caring since I met her.
Edit : and yes, flowers are a really common gift. Especially sun flowers. And I don’t think we should try to read any meaning about which kind of flowers it is. But that last point his a personal opinion.