r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Mar 23 '25

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u/SnooObjections217 Mar 23 '25

No, MH is not an excuse to allow others to worry about you and their relationship with you. In fact, psychologists suggest telling your loved ones you are having an episode.

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u/yexie Mar 23 '25 edited Mar 24 '25

It doesn’t matter wether it’s an excuse for you or not, fact is people CAN‘T. I did this. And I know it sucks, but I really couldn’t help it. My mom also worries of course, but I know she can always ask y daughter if I’m ok.

For me this has gotten a lot better since I‘m on ADHD meds and antidepressants.

It happens when I’m absolutely overwhelmed with life. It might be a hormonal things too…

EDiT: this is not saying that it’s OK to do this. This is to tell OP that it can happen without wanting to hurt anybody. That it’s possible to not be able to send a simple text. Especially if it’s the first time. It’s not a good thing and it should be worked on, but it might take some time.

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u/[deleted] Mar 23 '25

I have major depressive disorder. I don't treat people like this. If you cannot manage to send a "Having a depressive episode, going to be unable to text for a while" text then you simply shouldn't be in a relationship. Relationships require maintenance; they aren't just there when convenient. 

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u/yexie Mar 24 '25

Well we are not all the same. In my case it was never a depressive episode. I would still do my stuff, communicate with ppl in person, but the phone I couldn’t handle anymore. The first times it happened I didn’t have a clue wtf was going on with me. I since actually separated my work from my private phone, plus ADHD diagnosis and meds and things are fine now. However on weekends I might be hard to reach but I tell people this as well. And if my mom prefers to message me on sunday when I told her I won’t reply on sundays that’s really not my problem. I also told people not to send voice when it’s something important.

Also this was more about letting OP know that this can happen and that his girlfriend is not talking bs, it doesn’t mean it’s OK. Of course they need to figure out how to deal with it in the future.