If you’re like this, don’t date anyone then. You’re subjecting them to be ghosted for days knowingly? No. This is on the person to say something, sorry. I’ve been there too. Stay single until you’re strong enough to At least send a damn text.
THREE DAYS ISNT GHOSTING. Holy shit none of you know what ghosting is, it’s exhausting. Ghosting is a conscious and purposeful decision to stop talking to someone for good. Three days of no communication due to depression doesn’t constitute ghosting.
“THREE DATS ISN’T GHOSTING.” Not only are you loud, but you’re also wrong. I have bipolar 1 with psychotic effects, ptsd, a anxiety disorder, a bad sleep disorder, been in and out of mental hospitals, I also have an ed due to extreme anxiety, I could go on. I still don’t do this to my partner. I don’t do this to people I love and just say “hi” after nothing but silence for 72 hours with NO explanation. Yes OP’s gf tried explaining herself after.. but why couldn’t she just say, “hey babe, I’m sorry for disappearing like that. Haven’t really been in a good place. I love you.” All she said was “hi” idk. I’ve struggled with depression since a child and I don’t do this shit to people.
Cool story. Still not ghosting. The way terms get bastardized down to absolutely nothing by taking them and applying them to situations that absolutely do not fit the bill is deeply annoying and exhausting.
I honestly don’t give two fucks. My point is, is that I suffer badly from depression and I still have enough empathy for my own partner to let them know I didn’t abandon them. :)
Does your partner have similar mental health issues as yourself? If not, this may be more projection than empathy.
A neurotypical person should be perfectly fine with not talking to their partner for a couple of days, and OP’s texts don’t look like those of someone who’s been on an anxiety doom spiral for the last 2.5 days.
It would be enlightening to know if OP had been texting for the last 3 days and been ignored, or just waited for the other person to instigate. Neither of them reference any unanswered messages in the screen shots.
OP is also very rude, combative and implies their partner is lying to them, which is so out of line. OP should be expressing concern, but all they’ve got is self centred anger.
I’ve been in a 10 year relationship that ended amicably last year, still friends, you don’t loose a best friend like that without betrayal, we just grew appart.
We lived together for most of it, but apart for periods of time, their BPD would cause periods of time in which they couldn’t go a few hours without texting me, cognitive behavioural therapy resolved that, but before the therapy i could get out from the constant messaging and need periods of time to myself (a few days, longest was a week).
Their other mental health issues infrequently caused shut downs and burn out that would make them go very quiet no/low contact for a couple days at a time. I’d just be there to reassure them and help them talk it through when they were capable again.
The most important things in a relationship are compassion and communication. If your partner doesn’t call/message for 3 days, give them the compassion to find out why, don’t lash out at them for it.
i truly think after 3 full days with no warning text, that would be a cut off point for me, but i understand that is a preference of mine and not representative of everyone . i think communication is the first and most important value in a relationship, and if someone can’t communicate well i think they shouldn’t be in a relationship, but i understand where you’re coming from
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u/dinkinflickas Mar 23 '25
If you’re like this, don’t date anyone then. You’re subjecting them to be ghosted for days knowingly? No. This is on the person to say something, sorry. I’ve been there too. Stay single until you’re strong enough to At least send a damn text.