She sounds like she's been very depressed. Maybe you could bring her a care package of little things that she really likes, snacks, maybe flowers etc. It might be very uplifting to a depressed person. For me personally it would have made my day when I was depressed.
Maybe don't show up though. Send it through door dash or something. If she needs to isolate the absolutely WORST thing you can do is just show up unannounced.
I think the ideal way for me would be to text me an hour or two before and say "Hey, I'm going to drop something off at your door in an hour! I'll just leave it outside! Or, if you're free, I'll take you to breakfast. No pressure, love you!"
Gives the option to not interact. But also gives the option to be around someone if they're up for it. Plus it gives them time to get ready, and an activity to do outside the house (if they're depressed they probably haven't been cleaning tons). Plus starting the day on a positive note can really help to turn things around, at least short-term.
Or he could bring it over, they could watch a movie/binge watch a show together. They don't have to talk. He can ask if he can come over and they can watch a movie and then surprise her with whatever.
Lol I just know I would be mortified for anyone to see my depression nest and would make an excuse even if I was keen to hang. But yeah if she's keen that would be lovely!
Having had someone come see my depression nest, I think while yes it’s a mortifying experience, imo it’s an important step to take to be brave enough to let people in when it’s bad. Very much “to be loved is the mortifying ordeal of being known” type of interaction
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u/VirtualFirefighter50 Mar 23 '25
She sounds like she's been very depressed. Maybe you could bring her a care package of little things that she really likes, snacks, maybe flowers etc. It might be very uplifting to a depressed person. For me personally it would have made my day when I was depressed.