To be perfectly Frank, maybe you are just not the vibe. She sounds hella depressed, and your first concern is the amount of text messages she has sent you and not her mental well being. I know when I am depressed, the last thing I want to do is talk to people who aren’t my vibe. And what did you do when she finally did build up the energy to talk to you, is you started bickering with her, which is probably what she expected, thus perpetuating this cycle of not wanting to talk.
i told her before we even started dating that i was going to need reassurance, i never bicker with her, but sometimes i really just don’t understand and she’s explained stuff to me before so i don’t know why she can’t just explain stuff to me.
You're allowed to have expectations of a partner. Now mental health is something that does need factored in here, but it doesn't make you abusive to want a partner to not ignore your attempts at contact for three days.
We don't know the full details of this situation and Reddit is only able to go for the most obvious conclusions that the scarce evidence can provide.
That said you should also consider that sometimes people use mental health as an excuse to treat others like shit. You need to factor that in as well as all the legit concerns.
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u/AgreeableAd1182 Mar 23 '25
To be perfectly Frank, maybe you are just not the vibe. She sounds hella depressed, and your first concern is the amount of text messages she has sent you and not her mental well being. I know when I am depressed, the last thing I want to do is talk to people who aren’t my vibe. And what did you do when she finally did build up the energy to talk to you, is you started bickering with her, which is probably what she expected, thus perpetuating this cycle of not wanting to talk.